No matter what your gender is, breakups are always hard. After all, that’s been said and done, you have to try to move on from the failed relationship. And when it comes to moving on, everyone has different ways to process. Not to mention, people move on at various times. While there are those who take a few months to heal, there are those who are able to do it quickly.

When you feel like you’ve already cried enough tears and learned to let go of the past, the next part is moving on. If you feel like you’re still struggling with this, there are some things you can do to help you get back your mojo. Who knows, this might also lead you to open your heart up for another try.

Here are 10 ways to get your mojo back after a breakup:

Catch up with your friends

Most of the time, people in relationships tend to get caught up in their own private bubble. Because of this, they easily forget to make time for friends whom they haven’t seen in a while. If you are trying to get over a breakup, one of the best ways you can do this is by catching up with your closest friends. This will rekindle your relationship and you get to forget about what’s-his-name.

Go on a trip

There are some people who find travelling a relaxing activity. If you have the means, you can opt to book a ticket and go somewhere you’ve always wanted to visit. When you go on a trip, you break your regular routine. This helps you heal faster since you get to be more spontaneous and discover the things that you missed out on while you were in a relationship.

Pick up a new or old hobby

Is there one activity you always wanted to try but never had the opportunity to? Now that you’ve got all this free time, you can find time to try new hobbies. You can start by doing the activity just a few hours each week until you get to stick with the hobby. This is an excellent way you get to know more about yourself. Try something new like art classes star gazing or astronomy clubs, or photography, these are also often a great way to meet new people.

Face your fears

After a breakup, it’s normal to feel like you can conquer anything. This is because after you got emotionally hurt by the person you loved, you gain physical strength to overcome your fears. If you’ve always wanted to go bungee jumping, do it. If you want to dye your hair wild, crazy colours, there’s no one else to stop you. Ever wanted to join a dance class, now’s the best time to do it.

Start taking care of yourself

Start going back to the gym. Change your body and eating habits. By going to the gym, you get to keep your mind in balance and even have a more toned body. This will also bring back your self-confidence.

Don’t be afraid to go on a few dates

If you feel like you’re ready to start dating once again, do it. You don’t need to be in another relationship anytime soon but if you just want to start meeting new people, no one is stopping you from doing this.

Allow yourself to feel all over again

Even though you may feel like you’ve become a lot stronger since the breakup, there are times you won’t be able to help but feel vulnerable. During these days, you’ll reminisce over the breakup and feel things once again. These days are alright. Allow yourself to go through the painful experience until it no longer hurts to think about because of one day, it won’t.

Be competitive

Having a little healthy competition can do wonders for you. Find things you are passionate about and search for others who share your passion. When you reinvigorate healthy competition, you’ll feel the adrenaline that will make you feel alive once more.

Give back to others

You don’t need to be friends with your ex when you’re not ready. But it’s time to let go of the hatred you feel after getting dumped. It won’t do you any good. Instead, you can be more accepting of other people. Join a good cause or community and start volunteering.

Take this time for yourself

After being in a relationship for some time, it’s important that you give yourself the attention you deserve. You can set new goals or revamp the old ones you’ve made. This is a great place for you to start.

When you become at peace with your situation, you’ll start seeing things in a better picture. And while you don’t need to be in a relationship right away, having a few friends won’t hurt.

About the writer

Sally Kirchell lives in Rosalie, Brisbane and helps run an online art business called Blue Horizon Prints, she is a mother of 2 lively children, a parent to 3 dogs, a keen writer, traveller and photographer and women that needs a holiday with lots of margaritas after juggling all these things.