As a constant variable in the Human equation, the measure of our self-worth holds much power and content. It dates back through cradles of civilizations to the very first achievement perceived as such by the human perception. It is an aspect that is at the very heart of any motivation, and from womb to tomb it provides much if not the most propensity for any individual’s actions, choices and doings. It is thus quite worth our while to know and understand the source and the workings of our individual self-worth.
When and how, then, do we form our own self-worth? What are the instances in our lives in which our self-worth is diminished, enhanced or otherwise changed? When is our self-worth affected in its quality, measure and sustainability? To answer these questions, we would need to sample the entire span of a human life. Yet even if this provides us with self-worth related examples that are too numerous to count, the factors producing these examples may be precious few, and the principles these factors are based on may even be far fewer.
The earliest time in a human life that we may want to investigate with regard to self-worth would probably be as soon as an infant attains what is normatively referred to as self-awareness. From that point on and throughout their life, at every instance in which their perception of themselves is affected, their self-worth is inevitably affected as well, for the awareness of themselves changes as well. It stands to reason, then, that if we know who or what may affect our perception of ourselves, we would automatically be able to ascertain the factors and principle(s) which affect our self-worth.
Who or what, then, can affect our perception of ourselves? One thing is for sure: Regardless if the element affecting our perception is a person or a thing, the effect would not be successful without us first trusting that element enough to believe that element. It is only if and when we trust and believe a potential change to our self-awareness that we create that change as a temporary or permanent reality in our self-awareness.
Let us consider one simple example for this out of infinite others: Another individual is expressing to you “(I) love you.” Should you have absolutely no reason to doubt that person in this statement, your trust in it will be complete, and therefore you will believe the expression. Through believing and thus accepting this expression, you allow the quality expressed in it it to affect your own perception of yourself, which in this case entails that you are loved by another individual. This in turn automatically affects your self-worth in the direction of the judgement you accept. In this example, the accepted judgement is considered to be ‘good,’ and since you appreciate being loved, your self-worth would change to be enhanced.
The intensity with which you enhance your self-worth in this example is directly related to the intensity of the believed judgement. Thus were the expression in this example was “I love you very much,” your enhancement of your own self-value would be greater than “(I) love you.” Of course, all of this works both ways. Were the expression in this specific example was “I despise you,” the accepted judgement is considered to be ‘bad,’ and since you do not appreciate being despised, your self-worth would change to be diminished, and would diminish even further if the unappreciated and believed judgement would be “I despise you so much!”
And believe it or not, this is the single principle which holds all the factors affecting your self-worth. It is the principle of only you yourself creating in your own self-worth a temporary or permanent change of an intensity and quality that are dependant on judgements you choose to accept, through trusting and therefore believing the judgement’s source. These sources can be any individual (including your own self,) any thing, any element and any aspect in our physical reality, from family to friends, professionals, strangers, relationships, sexuality, emotions, senses, physicalities, spiritualities, religions, sciences, truths and perceptions.
This principle unequivocally means that your self-worth is neither dictated by nor dependant on any thing or any one other than yourself. Moreover, It allows for your desired self worth to be immutable and untouchable through your ultimate trust in yourself, which may deflect the effects upon it by believing or trusting others.
Yet in order to arrive at this principle, we have assumed that the self in your self-awareness and self-worth is a human being that is bound by our physical reality and its numerous yet finite beliefs. What if this is not the case? What if this self is so much more than that – a self that is unbound by our physical reality, that is in essence infinitely independent of any physical reality and its related belief? In that case, the term self-worth would be both meaningless and pointless to ascertain, for it will be infinite in both quality and quantity.
This is indeed the case in Absolute Truth. Thus you may consider not even bothering to ascertain, maintain or protect your self-worth at all, for it has been, is and always will be infinite, regardless of your finite perception of it through your beliefs.