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I experienced an actual miracle. I started to feel love for all of the people in the world I once labeled as “enemies.”
It happened some time ago, after becoming able to feel unconditional love for my psychopath ex.
This was a big step out of victimhood that has changed the entire world around me. The shifts I have been witnessing, as my inner world of peace begins to be reflected outwardly, are deep and profound.
Actual mountains of barriers are moving, alignment is happening, change is both rapid and rapturous. And it’s happening all around me, even in people I never thought it possible with.
One day, I woke up and it happened: I went from absolute outrage and hatred, to deep unconditional love, for President Donald Trump. I know that must sound both insane and impossible, but I really mean it.
My heart is overflowing and I am unable to feel any judgment toward him or his administration. I am also free of all fear: I am at peace. From this space of inner freedom, I can clearly view the limitlessness of possibility for real change in the world.
I in no way condone abuse or this administration’s narcissistic-like behavior and dangerous violent actions. What I have done is stopped being a player in their Hunger Games. I have stepped out of fragmentation and fear, the point of their whole agenda, and into alignment with my integrity and inner wisdom.
Many of us worry that if we let go of our fear, anger, and outrage, we will lose our motivation and energy to enact the change we so desperately need in this downward spiraling world. From where I am sitting, I now know and experience the opposite to be true.
The only way to really make a change is to change our inner world. The only way to save the world is to save ourselves. This means taking personal responsibility for everything within us. It means radical work, the courage to face our own thinking and emotions, and likely our personal traumas.
It is much easier, though I would argue more painful, to continue to keep pointing the finger outside of us and keep spinning out in fear. To face our selves takes great courage and tenacity. It is nonlinear and uncomfortable because it means facing the unknown, and we aren’t sure if we will ever get to the good stuff (inner peace, unconditional love, everything else we want).
I would argue, however, that it’s the only way to change this world we so desperately cry out needs changing. Are we going to leave it to the people who are running it into the ground to do so? Are we going to use their same tactics? I think we all know where that leads.
Not feeling it yet? Humor me with a simple thought experiment.
Imagine or remember a time when someone was upset with you. Some time when things got heated, and they reacted at you and you felt judged, unseen, and unheard. How did that work out?
I’m willing to bet you felt some mixture of contraction, hurt, defensiveness, anger, fear, and shame. Was this a really effective method of communication that allowed you to open to the possibility of hearing that person and changing? Probably not.
Now, imagine or remember a time when someone came to you with respect, kindness, understanding, and love and asked you to hear them. A time where they weren’t in judgment and anger. Was your heart more open? Could you hear them? How did that go?
Even if you haven’t had such an experience, I bet you can feel the importance of the difference I am getting at here. When we approach a problem with an open heart, and treat our fellow humans as equals, it is much more likely we will be seen, heard, and respected.
Now, from that understanding, what is the best way to approach someone with a MAGA hat? And this is the moment where my mind became akin to that exploding brain emoji, and I had to rethink my entire approach to helping heal this world.
I’m not asking you to rise above or be the better person. I am asking you to see your fellow humans with the respect you so crave and also deserve. Regardless of whether they are able to meet you in that way or not. We must not give in to fear and judgment or we will remain powerless, indefinitely.
So I’ll ask you:
>> Who is it you really want to be?
>> What kind of example are we setting if we play their childish mind games?
>> What if the real work we need to do, the truly important changes we need to make, start and end within us?
>> What if we all all stopped pointing fingers and starting looking at the fingers pointing back at us?
>> Can you even imagine the limitless potential of the possibilities to enact lasting global change if we all faced our own suffering and met it with grace?
Because I can. I can see that through each of us finding inner peace, the course of the entire world could shift to the one we say we want it to be.
What if we all start to embody that change? In this woman’s humble opinion, we would be an unstoppable force. For when we come to peace within, we are able to each bring our unique creativity and gifts to a world desperately in need of them. May peace be with you.
“If we learn to open our hearts, anyone, including the people who drive us crazy, can be our teacher.” ~ Pema Chödrön