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September 5, 2019

How to Find the Right Woman to Start a Relationship With

Does it seem like you’re constantly struggling to find a person who you can be happy be with?

Here is a simple process that can help you find the right woman in as short a time as possible.

Does it seem like you end up going from one bad relationship to the next? Maybe you just end up dating the same person in a different body time and time again.

What’s going on here, and what can you do about it?

Here’s a little trick that I learned a few years ago that just might help you out.

First, I want you to recognize that there are really 3 types of women that you can end up dating.

First, there are women who are absolutely wrong for you. They treat your horribly, they cheat on you, they don’t respect you, etc. You don’t want to date these women. They will make you miserable.

Second, there are women who are good, but just not right for you. Maybe you have different interests in life, incompatible lifestyle, or there just isn’t that “spark” there. You don’t want to date these women either. You’ll always end up feeling as if something is lacking and you’ll never really be fully satisfied with the relationship.

Third, there are awesome women. These women just make you come alive. You could spend hours talking with them and never run out of things to say, every day is an adventure with them, and you just feel “on” when you’re around her. This is the kind of woman you want to date.

Making Your 5 and 5 List

So how do you find this elusive awesome woman who is a perfect fit for you? You need to make a list.

Not exactly romantic, I know, but bear with me…

Instead of just relying on luck or chance to bring you the right woman, make a list of the top 5 things you really want in a woman.

These can be anything that is important to you. You could write down “emotionally open,” “honest,” or “loyal.” Or, it it is important to you, you could write down “looks really hot,” “loves sex,” or “dresses nicely.”

The important thing is to be honest with yourself here and write down the things that are truly important to you in a woman.

Then make a list of the 5 things you will not tolerate from a woman you’re dating.

Again, write down the things that are important to you, such as “lies to me,” “has no ambition in life,” or “doesn’t trust me.” Again, write down the top 5 things that you will not put up with from a woman, whatever they may be for you.

Now, use these two lists of 5 “must have” and 5 “must not have” traits as a guiding compass to help you determine whether or not you should continue to date a particular woman.

If she shows any of the traits on your 5 “must have” list, then continue to date her. If she shows any of the “must not have” traits, then stop dating her and move on to someone else.

This is the most effective way I know of to avoid dating the women that just aren’t right for you and find a real quality woman who will make you happy in the long run in the shortest time possible.

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