*This article was inspired by this post.
I think life gets easier once you find your strong meaning or purpose. For some this is even spending your life searching for it. I started having this conversation with myself very early in life and it helped me understand, over time and with experience, that I must help myself first.
Finding my own calling is an extremely personal and lengthy journey and I started by asking myself “what makes me happy” “what makes me fulfilled” “what could I spend my life doing” “if I look back on my life when I’m old, what do I hope to have achieved”.
I have read and experienced in significant ways that my life is built by what I make it, I am the author of my own story and that I have the obscure power to decide, where I let life lead me.
No matter what anyone says, we all deserve happiness. It is not selfish, we may avoid making a gaudy show of it, certainly. I deserve to put myself first and clear my mind and body of stress and diseases.
I have been fortunate. Living mostly close to the images I carried in my wishlist, I have known friends who desired to bend the rules for the longest time. However later, they had to sacrifice their own needs in order to meet those of others and in some scenarios they turned morose about life and gave up all hope. I may have moments and sometimes weeks of dip in my intention and effort. I am human.
And I am enough. I sit with that thought everyday.
The curiosity and in some cases, the ignorance or even indifference of others must not overwhelm me. In a time of crisis, the best of us lose sight of our boundaries and that of our loved ones. However when it comes to difficult times, the people who matter most will be supportive and understand.
I have learnt that ones who have an honest connection with me will surely understand.
The realisation dawned on me that the law of attraction is so real. Once I started seeing the beautiful in myself, others see it and admire it as well.
We all have so many silent admirers, people who fall a little in love with you when they see you on the street, in a bookshop, at a cafe or even in a parking bay.
The world gets a little better every time you actualise kindness and act with love. We are all human, you never know what others are going through. Smile at a stranger, wave thanks to people in traffic, appreciate customer service. It’s the small acts that add up.
I am consumed by an appreciation for the simple. I believe in competition. Without competition, the brain would be a dead organ. But it ought to be healthy competition. Where I give it a go, I sweat it out, I release all that I withhold. The result thereof must only temporarily stay with me. That’s all there is to it. These are my favourite words of wisdom for my elder son.
I want to be gentle with myself.
I wish to take more deep breaths and perform more compassionate acts towards myself first.
Because of all the people in the world, I love myself first and most.
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