August 16, 2020

How to Access the Full Power of a Twin Flame Relationship.


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In this article, I will discuss the importance of intuition on the twin flame journey.

It’s vital to know the difference between the 3D and the 5D, and the consequences for confusing the two. 

I will also be covering what it means to find a healthy balance between the physical and the metaphysical, and the subtle but important distinction between waiting and holding space.

Learning to Trust Your Intuition

If you are the twin carrying more of the feminine energy (embodied by either biological male or female), you will probably be well aware that one of the main tasks required of you is to surrender. You must let go of your twin flame instead of tightly holding onto them and expecting a romantic outcome.

There are many articles and YouTube videos that talk about this; there is a lack of information on the subject. However, I feel like a lot of these messages get misunderstood, partly because they are conveyed through fluffy spiritual language that sounds great on paper, but are hard to grasp from an intellectual level.

This is exactly where the paradox lies. The concepts of surrendering and letting go and holding space are, by nature, intuitive, and therefore hard to convey in words. (I suspect that this is why most of these resources use fluffy spiritual language in the first place.) These concepts are hard to describe on an intellectual level, and it’s not until you feel them on a deep intuitive level that you truly get what they are banging on about.

However, the problem here is that until you have been on the journey for some time—in tune with your intuition to a certain degree—you will most likely be trying to understand these concepts from an intellectual perspective. You are probably continuously feeling confused because these concepts don’t seem to make sense or resonate on a deeper level.

Some twins are naturally more intuitive than others and don’t need to spend as much time developing and learning to trust their innate intuitive powers. However, for most feminine twins, it takes time, tough love lessons, and emotional growth to fully accept and nurture their intuitive powers (myself included). It’s only in the last six months that I’ve really come to understand just how intuitive I am on a deep level and fully open up to it and trust it completely.

I’m not attempting to shame anyone for not being as in tune with their intuition as others—I would be berating myself if this were the case. The lack of trust and faith in our intuition as super badass feminine warriors is a product of the outdated patriarchal paradigm we are working so hard as twins to help humanity overcome.

The importance of the feminine power and intuition, and what an amazing gift it is to humanity, has been diminished for centuries in favor of predominately masculine strengths around logic and reason. Unfortunately, this has caused a lot of feminines to deny and doubt their intuitive gifts. The truth is that neither intuition nor logic nor reason is more important than the other. They have equally important parts to play in healing and advancing humanity in a plethora of positive ways.

Learning to Balance the 5D and the 3D

As a feminine twin flame, one of your major tasks is to learn how to successfully navigate and balance the physical reality with the metaphysical. In a lot of twin flame resources, these two worlds are often referred to as the “3D” (the physical world around us which we can physically touch, taste, feel, and see) and the “5D” (the world we can only sense and feel intuitively with our third eye). So, at any one time, we need to find a balance between these two worlds.

We need to learn to strike a healthy balance between these two worlds. This is a large part of our mission as spiritual beings on the twin flame path. We are here to bring the visions and guidance we receive through our intuition onto Earth—to make them a physical reality.

This is what it means when you read that the twin flame mission is about “bringing heaven down to Earth.” To do this, we need to get the balance between our physical world and intuition correctly. If you get bogged down in the 3D drama with your twin, it can result in endless cycles of conflict and loss.

However, if you get fixated on the 5D, you can become ungrounded and quickly get stuck in fantasy land. This often results in feminine twins growing disillusioned when the physical reality with her twin doesn’t measure up to what she can see and sense in the 5D.

A good example of this is when “she” can intuitively see her masculine’s higher self in his full divine masculine power—strong and stable with just the perfect amount of vulnerability. She gets confused and projects this vision onto her physical masculine, and gets a huge shock when she reaches out to him only to be ignored, dismissed, or spoken to with harsh words. This is because he hasn’t yet risen into his highest potential, which she can feel and sense through her third eye. Some feminines can get stuck in this cycle for years, and it can cause a lot of extra pain and heartache.

To sum up, the first thing here is for the feminine twin to become fully aware that she has this unique intuitive ability and learn to trust it, which is often one of the hardest soul lessons she is faced with. Trust me, the universe will keep testing you on this one over and over until you finally give in and decide to trust your intuition for good instead of continually going back and forth between moments of faith and doubt. These are the times when you find yourself desperately scouring social media for physical proof that your feelings about your twin are reciprocated, and that you’re not just a basket case.

The second is for her is to recognize that the higher self version of her masculine that she is feeling and sensing is probably not an accurate representation of where he is at in the physical. Unless you see concrete physical proof that he is embodying his divine masculinity, it is probably safe to say that he is not there yet. I have made this mistake many times on my journey only to become confused and bitterly disappointed upon realizing that my physical twin was not matching up to what I could see with my third eye.

Waiting versus Holding Space

Before I go any further, I think it’s essential to note that there are no quick fixes on the twin flame journey. If you’ve been on the path for a while, you’ve probably heard this said before and rolled your eyes; I know I certainly have!

Despite the annoyance, it is one of the most important truths to fully accept and understand on the journey. The alternative is you end up banging your head against a brick wall repeatedly in sheer frustration. It’s better to bite the bullet and spare yourself the agony by accepting that there is no such thing as instant gratification on the twin flame path. If you feel that you can’t accept it, you may be better off walking away and finding a soulmate. Sorry to be super direct, but it is the truth!

There can be a tendency (for feminine twins in particular) to be in a kind of waiting energy. It’s like being stuck in the hoping that their masculine will finally wake up, recognize the significance of the connection, and charge toward her, proclaiming his undying love.

She prizes this above everything else in her life, even if she is not consciously aware of it, which results in her putting some (or all) plans on hold until her masculine commits to her. This is the exact definition of waiting on the twin flame path, and it’s what ultimately ends in frustration, bitterness, pain, and disappointment for the feminine twin.

Again, I’m certainly not judging; we’ve all been there. It’s also important to note that you can be out there living your life and “getting on with things” while there is still a part of you waiting. It’s all about energy, and if there is the slightest bit of waiting energy in your system, the universe and your divine counterpart will sniff it out. There is no hiding on the journey, as much as we would all like to think so at times.

Holding space, on the other hand, is not putting yourself on hold to wait for your twin in any way—physically, emotionally, psychologically, or energetically. It involves charging ahead with your own life and taking action to reach your own goals, developing yourself, growing spiritually, etc.

It doesn’t mean going to the opposite extreme and completely cutting them off and moving on, because you “Literally can’t do this in a twin flame connection.” No matter how many times you try and do this, you will always be magnetically drawn back to them—even if you don’t want to be.

Holding space means holding them in your heart and having a love for them, but not waiting around for them or expecting them to behave in a certain way for you to love them. However, this doesn’t mean you should put up with bad behavior either. If they mistreat you, you must firmly and respectfully put up boundaries and gain the courage to walk away. You can still love them from afar without physically being in their love or taking any action toward them.

To do this effectively, you need to be at a point where you have worked on letting go of your unhealthy attachment to your twin. This attachment can keep you stuck in unhelpful black-and-white thinking patterns—the “Should I stay or just cut them off completely?” mindset. In layman’s terms, it’s like that feeling when you have spent some time healing after a painful relationship breakup, and you suddenly realize you have moved on and that you feel neutral about your ex. But you can also reflect positively on what you learned from the relationship.

It’s also important to note that letting go of attachment is not a one-time thing. There are often layers to work through. The universe will never make you tackle it all at once; this would be too overwhelming. Sometimes you will be assisted by the lunar cycles to release old pain—full moons are a huge time of emotional release for a lot of twins—so it’s often not something you have to do on your own. It can be tough to access old, repressed pain without some help, so the divine often steps in in this way to help bring to the surface (so you can purge it).

It would be best if you made the conscious choice to focus on yourself and keep moving on your path no matter what. These are usually times that you feel fixated on your twin and stuck around how to move forward. It’s important to set the intention from the get-go that you are going to make the journey about your healing and your empowerment instead of trying to get together with your twin. If it’s meant to be, it will be. In the meantime, you have a life to live and things to do. So it’s best to get busy with that and mean it rather than just doing it to attract your twin.

You must also make room in your life to do your spiritual and emotional work. You can’t expect to become more spiritually enlightened and shed layers of unhealthy attachment if you are too busy with work or distracting yourself with other things. Yes, career and work are important, but your spiritual practice is just as important. I would even argue that it’s more important, depending on where you are in your journey.

You also can’t expect anything to happen if you only spend your time doing visualizations and meditating. While these things are essential for manifestation, and to look within for answers, it won’t result in much if you don’t take any inspired action to make your goals and dreams come into fruition.

So again, it’s a balancing act. Like most things on the spiritual path, multiple truths are happening simultaneously, and they are all as valid as each other. We must learn to get our heads around this and learn to balance on this tightrope as twin flames. A large part of the work we do is breaking free from the black-and-white ways of thinking and operating in the world.

Ultimately, the journey, particularly for the feminine twin, is about rising into her full power like the phoenix rising from the ashes. She is a superwoman—badass supreme. She is magnetic, strong, courageous, fierce, compassionate, creative, empathetic, determined, and extremely beautiful on a deep soul level.

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