“My mom threw me out of the house at seventeen for getting pregnant, then had me arrested when I tried to get my clothes…” pic.twitter.com/fK2hSEir3g
— Brandon Stanton (@humansofny) November 18, 2019
Hope has been hard to come by this year.
Between the pandemic, the natural disasters, the racial injustice, the devastating deaths, and the sh*t show that is our political system and upcoming election, it’s a miracle that we’re all still here—waking up every day and finding a way to keep moving forward.
And that doesn’t even take into account all the personal “stuff” we’re each struggling with.
Last Monday, at the start of what would become a pretty emotional and overwhelming week for me personally, I saw an image on Instagram that made me stop. Humans of New York had posted an update to a story they originally ran in November 2019—a story that had captivated so many people across the world that Brandon Stanton, who created the popular Instagram account, knew he had to do a follow-up.
Lucky for us, this follow up could not have come at a better time.
Stanton ultimately befriended the woman in the original image—Stephanie “Tanqueray”—and has spent the past week sharing the story of her life. A life full of hardship and trauma, relationship issues and out-of-the-box career choices, sadness and confidence, struggle and survival.
The 32-part series has both allowed me to escape from my own drama for a bit, while also helping me put it into perspective.
Stephanie’s life and her words, although they sound like the stuff Hollywood movies are made of, feel raw and unconventionally honest. That vulnerability has kept me glued to my phone, mildly stalking the account, impatiently waiting for the next installment.
What I’ve found in every single post is a sliver of hope; whether she’s discussing her contentious relationship with her mother, the men she has loved and lost, or the nights spent stripping in New York City, you never get the feeling that she has done anything but live her life to the absolute fullest, even when things were unimaginably hard.
I didn’t know how much I needed that message.
I know that I will be sad when her story series comes to an end. But I also know that I am more convinced than ever that our stories matter. Whether we share them with our friends and family, a stranger on the street with a camera, or millions of humans across the globe who are looking for connection, our stories deserve to be heard.
Because you never know—your story might be the one thing that gives someone hope.
Check out the first few installments of Stephanie’s story below and then head to Humans of New York’s Instagram page to keep following along:
Read 12 comments and reply