September 17, 2020

News at 11: you’ll never make everybody Happy. But here’s what you can do to learn from Blame.

My new book is coming out. Here’s an excerpt:

You’ll never make everyone happy. You made mistakes. So did I.

So don’t buy into blame. But don’t reject it, either. Listen to it.

When we blame someone else for everything, true or not, we create more warfare. When we listen to blame, and learn from it what we can, we grow up.

We all make mistakes. We all get sad. We all get defensive.

The key is to take the blame. Sit on that blame. Otherwise, blame is a hot potato that everyone wants to push away, and as we push it away it just gets bigger.

So be willing to be the first to take that blame. But do not do so out of self-hatred. That is not responsibility.

Do so out of friendliness toward oneself and others. We must learn from our mistakes. We must come back to the present moment, again and again. This is meditation. And, this is life. And, this is what Chogyam Trungpa called the most profound mantra of them all:

“Om Grow Up Svaha.”

You can do it. So can I.

Imperfection is beautiful, weird, fun, true, and open.

Perfection is a cold, hollow, fragile, dull mirage.




The above is an excerpt from Waylon H. Lewis’ forthcoming book, It’s Never too Late to Fall in Love with Your Life: Practical Buddhist advice for Everyday Life. It’s 365 quotes, with commentary, one for every day. Pre-order it here and save $5.

His first book, the best-selling Things I would like to do with You, is also available at that link.

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