We have all heard the adage “you need to feel it heal it”

Easier said than done and say this to a woman  with a deep mother wound you may be in for some mistrust and frustration.

Why the mistrust? This would dig deep and hit the very nerve of that wound.This is a wound of all wounds and often a generational trauma. It runs deep. This wounding happens in the early days when attachment is critical.

Those wounds are likely scarred over and yes  many who have such wounding are able to move on in life still carrying the pain.

The pain remains though, and gets activated every so often just enough to keep the woman hiding in shame. The pain maybe a secret or something that has never been articulated with words because it shows up in the body or as a feeling.
In theory, healing sounds like a piece of cake accept the pain, feel it,and love and accept yourself and move on. Sounds easy doesn’t it?
Think again my friends this healing work is not for the faint of heart. Healing, forgiving and moving on doesn’t happen in a neat succession.

This isn’t easy work.

It isn’t fast either. There are steps forwand and back.

I compare it to a painting with many layers. Under years of replying and different paint, the surface is murky and yet underneath there lies a masterpiece.
Slowly layers are lifted and exposed to light and little by little the image immerges.

The image is you!

The person you are meant to be. The woman who has been hidden from the world and love.

This recovery takes time and patience. It takes dedication.

Inner child work is more than saying affirming phrases it is showing up for yourself first and changing what you do and how you think about yourself.

Parenting is a tough demanding job and reparenting is a process.

The good news it is never too late to heal or to begin. Being patient and kind is a start – self-love is codependent recovery.

If you are reading this then you have already started. Know you don’t have to go it alone reach out to a therapist or support group. When we start opening up we let that light in and remember that Rembrandt masterpiece is you!

You are more than enough, perfect in every way!

Darling, it is true!