I think too much – it is an occupational requirement and hazard.

As I lay in bed far past my sleep time I ponder life and love.

I’m happy living single with a my cat. I am content and still I wonder.

I let my mind wander and in my minds eye I pluck a flower and say:

“ She finds love, love finds her not”

Then I take a long slow exhalation and feel my  body release sinking into my bed.

Wouldn’t it be wonderful if we could receive relationship forecasts and warnings like a glimpse into the future?
How many heartaches and lives would be saved?

Life and relationships are messy for many and for others they are rock solid.

At the end of a relationship it is easy to curse wishing that you had noticed the “ red flags”.

Poor communication, selfishness, relational abuse and contempt are just a few relationship failings.
Often couples have different expectations, emotional trauma, and unrealistic expectations. There are relationships of convenience, differences in priorities and personality issues.
The list of challenges goes on and really it is amazing that any relationships stick.

What if relationships happened in reverse?What would it be like if we had the opportunity to fast track to the end of the relationship?

If we had insight regarding the ending how many would pursue their relationships?

Would you rewind and meet again?

Having some fore-warning like the following might be helpful.

Imagine receiving this information like a  “forecast” on the 5 0’clock news.
Attention you are entering the growth practice relationship and you will have a series of four of these before finding the love of your life”insert hearty chuckle.

Warning alert- after marrying you will end up leaving because of circumstances that make it unbearable followed by a decade alone in which you wander alone in hopes of finding love.

Would you do it all over?

This forecast might prevent some heartache or perhaps have the very opposite in effect.

In my work with humans even those that are ending relationships many declare that they wouldn’t have done anything different.

This is love.

Even after heartache and breakup people acknowledge the benefit of the vulnerability of intimacy even when it ends because of the transformative effect of love.

There is no crystal ball to see the future and all we have is our own intuition.

Let’s face it even the red flags can’t keep people apart when chemicals and sexual attraction fireworks are activated.

Love and lust makes us do crazy things.

If we live our life entirely safe avoiding relationships are we truly living?

One of the ways that we grow is through relationships and those difficult ones are often transformative.

There is so much to learn and life is full of opportunities.

Relationships are our classrooms.

To fall asleep I return to my flower petals.

I pluck them in my mind and release saying
“ I believe in love and I am open”

Even though my own life has been full of some interesting love stories with ridiculous endings I believe in love. I also love the Queen single bed and my snoring cat. Life is never dull nor should it be.