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October 4, 2021

I’m Horny, My Hair is Thinning, and I’m Adjusting Somewhere on the Menopausal Spectrum.

I have no semblance of an earning for a child. The whole “I can’t have kids anymore” panic; a metaphorical maternal clock ticking down or a feeling my womanhood is dying, doesn’t hit me like some woman. I’m the oldest female in my family who hasn’t had to have a hysterectomy yet. On top of medical reasons, I was a teen mom and have no desire for a 30-year difference from my oldest to youngest.

I had two kids—one boy, one girl, I’m good.

There are varying reasons of medical and family history—from uterine hemorrhaging, to a high risk of complications if pregnant. For years I’d been having severe problems certain times of the month. I carried a change of clothes with me everywhere and some days pain was so severe I could barely move out of the bed much less walk.

I had some other medical problems which led me to have health insurance for a year. I tried to make the most of that year and saw a gynecologist. The diagnosis was severe endometriosis. I was given two options: have a hysterectomy or try an IUD. To avoid surgery, I chose the IUD. It has helped with the extreme pain and bleeding so far to avoid any kind of hysterectomy.

Both still happen but not anywhere near as bad. I haven’t had to buy a tampon in years which is something to celebrate on its own. When pain or spotting does show up it is random and I know it’ll pass shortly.

I say I’m somewhere on the spectrum because I’m not pre or post—I’m going through it.

I no longer have health insurance to get the fancy test to know where my hormone levels are at but I can tell by stronger and more pronounced changes with my body. For decades I’ve had changes in body temperature. Now, it’s worse. One minute I’m freezing and then I wake up sweating all over my pillow. There’ve been changes in my weight and energy. Granted, stress and everything of the past year and a half contributes to some of this too.

And, ugh!! I didn’t know my hair was going to thin.

Having more sex is a way to naturally boost my hair back to its usual thickness. That’ll work, right? I don’t want to take hormone pills. I’d rather use natural ways to balance out and help with affects.

There are many benefits to more sex including helping hormonal imbalances. Maybe that’s why I’m so horny and think about sex all the time. Cravings are a way for my body to alert me to something I need. Food of course is the most common but it’s true for other things too, like sex. I’m satisfied and happy with that aspect of my life—I just want more…for hormonal reasons. It’s really an all-around win-win situation.

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