I’m a human scientist always inquiring and exploring the behaviors and dating pursuits of others. I find it interesting and amusing as I have settled into a pretty safe and predictable single gal gig.

Literally love would have to knock down this Covid door. Though the heart is open my life is predictable balanced and  routine. Dating is rare and seriously I dread it just as much as I dread Covid.

I write about love and all that jazz yet honestly it is what I fear.

Recently I visited with a few single gals and two single male friends. We discussed singledom. There seems to be two schools of thought and teams so to speak. Those that cry over being single and those that embrace it. Those that chronically date in pursuit and those that play solitaire with their cats. I’m the later.

Initially during the start of the pandemic I was freaked out being alone and now this is a comfort. There is no conflict, fights and no drama. Life is easy and rich with friends and activities and creative pursuits.

Why date I ask my Cosmo girlfriend? Her response, “because my heart is beating”. “Good grief” I say and sigh however I’m all ears.

Cosmo girls prescription for me is 90 dates in 90 days. This is her advice you can take it or criticize it. I have to admit I’m on the fence with my cat.

90 dates in 90 days is the formula for getting back out there. Modelled after rehab ironically. You meet for 20 – 30 minutes per date. You only message 3 times and if there is no possibility of moving forward you end the connection. This seems pretty simple and practical advice. The dates or interview is simple no frills and always Dutch.

This seems like a full-time job. Like behavioral activation the dates are scheduled and you go even if you have no desire. This doesn’t sound fun. Her response is that dating isn’t fun but having a good partner is so I should get back out there.

I am in the contemplation stage. Thinking about doing this. I can find tons of excuses why I shouldn’t date especially now during Covid. Still something about her pitch seems to tug at my brain saying there might be something to this.

What team are you on? Does 90 dates in 90 days sound realistic, practical or fun? Life is changing and so are the times. Miss Cosmo might have something here I am not sure but I am thinking about finding out. More to come.