Feelings Aren’t Facts

How often do we get caught up in our thoughts forcing them into reality? Worrying about things that may never occur. No longer thinking straight, but rather filled will assumptions and what if’s. The inability to embrace and enjoy the present because our mind is preoccupied with what lies ahead. Does any of this sound familiar? If so, I have two words for you, “Stop It”!

Is it possible to fully live life when overcome with fear? Are we ever really present and available? Truth of the matter is that we are entitled to think and feel what we want, but that doesn’t make it factual. We’ve all been there. I’m guilty of prejudging others based off hearsay or experiences that my close friends or loved ones may have had with them. Never going so far as to mistreat or speak ill of them, but moreso giving them the side eye if ever they were in my presence. Was that fair? Of course not. It wasn’t until I was on the receiving end of such treatment that I realized just how hurtful it could be. I’m often classified as harsh/cold because my truth isn’t always sweet. It’s never from a place of hostility though. I’ve never been the person to just tell people what they want to hear. To me, that isn’t being a true friend. Later in life, I came to realize why I was so unpopular. You see, if everyone around is always saying what someone wants to hear then I come along and say otherwise, immediately I’m looked upon as the bad guy or girl. Makes sense doesn’t it? I had to learn how not to take that personal. Then again, maybe it was and I chose not to care. Either way, I continue to be me. Giving harsh reality when and where necessary.

Although feelings aren’t facts, they should always be based on them. Simply put, what we don’t witness with our eyes or ears should not create doubt or suspicion in our minds. Gossip, hearsay and the like should remain irrelevant until we have first hand knowledge. Even then, if it serves no beneficial purpose leave it be. We must stop allowing others to push their agenda through us. Besides, one’s perception is his/her reality. Some will find fault no matter the person or situation. Oftentimes, we are the reason our lives are at a stand still because we’re in the way of blessings. It’s ok to have our beliefs, but not acceptable to force them upon others.

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