Is It Working?

by Lola Jones

Here’s the million-dollar question we all need to ask: is it working?

Whatever we’re doing, is it working?

Is our life flowing with ease and grace most of the time?

I’ve always been prone to question what others readily accept, and many years ago it became glaringly obvious that there was a pervasive addiction in the spiritual community slowing down or even stopping many of us from becoming awakened.

I recognized it in myself first. Sure, there were (still are) some good things out there, and being open-minded is a good thing. But come on, we can’t let our brains fall out! So much simply did not work, but I was doing it anyway.

Whoa. I’d gotten caught up in the epidemic raging through the spiritual community: the addiction to seeking.

This awareness was the major turning point in my life. If I’d kept seeking, I shudder to think where I’d be today… probably still chasing my tail on that confounded hamster wheel.

I’d most certainly be a very skinny hamster by now!

It was embarrassing to admit at first, but I had to: what I was doing wasn’t working!

I think of it this way: if we meet our soul mate but keep dating, what happens?

It’s the same when we know our inner lover is right here inside but keep seeking for it outside! It negates our union.

Seeking addiction keeps us in struggle and suffering and actually prevents us from experiencing the very freedom and peace we’re seeking. Once I was able to recognize and quit my own addiction, my awakening took off, and for the last 12 years it’s been my life’s work to help others claim this freedom for themselves.

The first step to stepping off the hamster wheel of seeking is awareness—what I call witnessing. We see ourselves clearly but with compassion–as our Large Self sees us. Kicking any addiction requires witnessing.

It also helps to have true desire and determination. Gratefully, these develop naturally in us as we become willing to witness ourselves with clear and compassionate honesty.

But here’s the best news I realized along the way: addictions are simply vibrational habits that can be changed much more easily than we’ve been led to believe. Without this awareness, trying to quit an addiction can be like pushing rocks up hill; it’s harder than it needs to be.

We set things in stone when we diagnose, label and chain ourselves and others to problems or maladies, so I don’t do that anymore. Psychological diagnoses, physical illnesses, personality traits, and addictions, at their root, are always vibrational in nature. And when we understand how vibration works, over time we can learn to more deliberately manage and impact our vibration—with far more ease than we may have thought possible. Feel the relief in that!

So how exactly did I quit my addiction to spiritual seeking?

First of all, I witnessed that seeking wasn’t working for me—and that boy, it was an expensive habit! We humans can be funny—we don’t always admit something’s not working! Gratefully, I witnessed and accepted where I was, and I asked The Presence within what to do. The answer was, Stop Seeking!

Secondly, I was ready to stop suffering and struggling. All addictions make us dependent on outside things and sap our freedom. The good news is that the contrast of being enslaved to anything creates a huge desire for freedom. The desire for greater awakening—instead of dancing around it—had grown quite strong in me! It made me willing to try something new.

Now I was able to stop looking for answers outside myself and go within. I went into an extended period of silence where I looked only within. No outside influences, no sessions, no spiritual books. Sounds horrifying if you’re on the hamster wheel, doesn’t it?!

Of course, there was the emotional component I needed to deal with. After all, most seekers primarily want relief from feelings they don’t want to feel! The drive to feel better is enormous, and all kinds of addictions get started while seeking ways to feel better.

But at its core, all emotion is vibrational energy. Feelings exist on an emotional continuum—they’re all the same divine energy, just vibrating at different speeds. Uncomfortable feelings vibrate more slowly than feelings that feel better.

In a curious, free-flowing inner environment, uncomfortable feelings simply indicate slower-moving vibration that wants to move. We don’t make them wrong but recognize they need the balm of our allowing and acceptance so that they can move.

As I became ready, willing and able to soften into whatever I was experiencing and find acceptance for that moment, I felt better; there was more spaciousness, ease and flow. Softening opened space so energy had room to move, and that felt better!

As I learned to soothe and show up for myself, the need to avoid and resist uncomfortable feelings lessened.

When I lost my fear of feelings, I was free.

For the decades I was seeking, freedom and awakening eluded me, because it really was right here and right now! I just needed to remember how to slow down, focus inward, stop chasing it outside, and simply claim it for myself.

Leaping off that hamster wheel of sessions and endless work made me able to go within and start reconnecting with myself instead of grasping desperately for answers and cures outside.

Seeking is an addiction that holds us apart from our power. It soothes the mind to understand why this is. As we become more fluent in the language and practice of witnessing our vibration, we can quickly reclaim power, and we develop new vibrational habits.

Playing at the deeper level of vibration, it’s easy to experience how fluid things are. Nothing is set in stone! Everything is just vibration, and vibration is always changeable.

Savor this possibility!

Lola Jones emanates a powerful vortex of Grace that changes lives and liberates people. She is an international best-selling metaphysical author and teacher who has created one of today’s most influential spiritual teachings. Divine Openings™ guides you beyond the endless cycle of healing and seeking to spiritual empowerment and helps you have a wonderful, awakened life on earth here and now!

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