Judgement

Judgement

#judging#

#pregnancy#

#miscarriage#

#infertile#

#motherhood#

#IVF#

#singlemum#

Why is it that people in some societies are so quick to judge??? I am so tired of judgement and being judged?!!!  Judgement as a turn of phrase may sound strange for someone who used to be a lawyer. In a previous life I was a lawyer.

Why is it that society judges parents so much?  They judge you when you don’t have kids??

If you don’t have kids you have no idea what it is like and how hard it is.  I find it so hard being a mum and I have no help!!! NO help or rest ever!!!

The truth and how heartbreaking it is the way others judge.  People are so quick to judge.   I can relate. I used to get judged for not having kids. I had my first kid at 32. I get judged as a single mum. I get judged as a mother. I am a single mum with 2 kids and sometimes feel like I am literally tearing my hair out with them.  I have never had help with them after nearly 10 years and I get so judged…..

Some people who don’t have kids get judged too. Some people have no idea that maybe that poor woman had a miscarriage. Or that maybe she is infertile. Maybe she has tried IVF a few times. Had how it is too have a miscarriage or have trouble getting pregnant. Too be honest I think if I had not had endometriosis so badly when I was younger or had uterus cancer and had surgery and treatment including chemo,the whole shebang,  I’m sure I would have become pregnant with my ex boyfriend.

I have horrible health problems and only 1 kidney and a bad heart. Pre eclampsia and placenta Praia in 2 pregnancies. I was so sick and upset when pregnant, I bled so much and nearly miscarriaged my girls. They were both premature and my uterus ruptured after both births. My kids are a miracle really and it is a miracle that I am still alive. God knows I find so hard having kids without help ever and being sick. But I love my kids so much and they are a blessing. Especially when there are women out there who can’t even get pregnant with IVF. That after many failed IVF attempts you adopt a baby. Or don’t. Or you finally get pregnant and have a miscarriage.

The truth is that no one can always know what someone who is a stranger is going through. So don’t judge, try being kind instead. Have some compassion, empathy. And I wish people would stop judging. As I keep seeing lately #knowmorejudgeless# if only people did that!! Some say “ignorance is bliss “ but burying your head in the sand is not good. Knowledge is better. Or as the expression goes” if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it at all!”

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