When the couple is not at their best we usually believe that there is a problem or a serious conflict that is causing that situation.

However, on many occasions what happens is that the relationship has entered into a somewhat negative dynamic: many positive things have been lost that before you gave each other reciprocally.

Fill your relationship with positive!
When we stop adding positive aspects to the relationship basket, it cools, the members distance themselves and we can be at the beginning of the conflicts. So remedy it now and learn to fill that basket of positive.

Many people believe that love does not need proof or demonstrations. As we saw in “Four false ideas about love,” we sometimes believe that simply with love is enough, as if this were a magical entity that would make the relationship work.

This is something very beautiful and deep, but love needs to be given, it needs acts that show that it is still there: without behaviors that show that you still love your partner, that you still like doing things with her and for her and that you enjoy moments together, how will you know?

After all, we love each other when we are happy with each other, and for that, we need to strengthen the positive aspects of the relationship.

What do we do to get more positive things?
You can do many things so that the aforementioned basket is filled with positive and the relationship is in a proper dynamic. Here are some examples of reinforcements that will motivate you:

– Do things together.
It seems very obvious, but the basis for being happy is to do things that please us, that make us happy.

They do not need to be very complicated things or require great elaboration or dedication; they can simply be daily activities, such as going to have a coffee in a new place, exercising together, watching a movie or a series that you feel like, preparing a romantic dinner …

– Choose a special day.
Choose each one day, weekdays, that do not match and without knowing the other what day it will be.

That day you will devote to bombing the other person with positive things: the more, the better. Make him breakfast, buy him something he likes, make him a massage, prepare a romantic dinner, plan an activity he loves, etc.

The goal is to do everything possible for the other person to enjoy that day to the fullest; In the end, you will realize that you will also have enjoyed.

– Take back old memories.
It’s time to take those photos of the trip you made, the video of your wedding, the song you fell in love with …

Relive the moments that have marked your relationship to remind you how happy you can be. The power of these memories is priceless and will help you to fall in love again.

– Look at what he does for you.
It is very important for the couple that you realize what the other is doing for you and the relationship. If it costs you, one day aims to be aware of every positive thing your partner does.

If necessary, you can even write it down. We often forget or do not look at most things, so it is essential that you see it.

– Observe and comment on the good.
Also look at what you like about your partner, the good things he has, as well as the positive aspects of your relationship.

Make a complete list of all the things that occur to you and comment on it among you. We must always do it positively, correctly communicating the pleasantness of the other, without irony or reproach.
These are some of the many things you can do so that your relationship is always full of positive aspects.

Remember that what makes you happy being together is what keeps the relationship and what you are with each other.

In short, if you love each other, show it.