As children, we tend to question almost everything, always on the search for the answer, even if it wasn’t the correct one. Till this day,  I enjoy the challenge, the mystery of not knowing, not grasping to the right answer. It could be something about creating my own solutions, answers, world, something that doesn’t tie down my imagination, something that allows my mind to soar freely and travel into places of personal meaning. For that reason, sometimes I wish I can erase moments of common consciousness, moments were there’s only one right answer, one possibility, moments where i realized the moon didn’t follow us on every car ride, or that the ocean isn’t blue, but just a reflection of the sky. On many days I choose replacing recognition, facts, and “common truth”, with imagination, astonishment, irrationality, fantasy, fiction and wander. For this reason, I still find myself in constant attempts resisting entering the kind of consciousness of the “been there’s and done thats of the adult mind”, where nothing seems to excite you or strike you anymore because all answers are known, unlocked, figured out, stored in the brain, and that kind of familiarity breeds boredom. I strive for moments that help my mind thrive and find it’s own definitions and answers. This is why waterfalls strike and inspire me to overflow. 

Scientifically I don’t fully understand how waterfalls flow and if they are seasonal or conditional; I think part of me doesn’t want to search for the right/correct answer, in fears that it may undermine the personal meaning they hold. To me, they represent the ability of pouring from a place of abundance, a place that’s content, full, and whole, a place that never runs out.

As humans, some of us wait for others to pour into our cups in hopes to reach “happiness” and completion. We tend to fall into the trap of seeking validation, fulfillment, love, and self-worth from others; and that’s normal, but not when it’s our primary source, not when we are depending on it, not when our emotional and mental states are fragile and conditioned to be altered according to what others are pouring into our cups. In order to flourish and achieve genuine love and true connections, we need to learn how to care, how to love, how to grow, how to inspire and give ourselves the things we aspire to receive from external sources.

The things we starve and ache for are just within reach, they all exist eternally within you. The love you think you need is written all over you, to reach to whatever connection, whatever career and position, whatever location; exists within your ability to accept that you are all what you need initially, and everything else is extra; this doesn’t make you selfish or distant or independent of others; but it opens the door for genuine and authentic relations. You can never give something you lack, in order to love and give properly, you need to care and nurture your own self. To shine your light, to flourish, grow, and carry yourself through life, knowing that you have your own back, you are your own friend, knowing that you are pouring into your own cup all the love, validation, affirmation, beauty, care, love and fulfillment you need; your cup will overflow, like a waterfall, so majestically, so lightly, so beautifully. From there, you’ll have so much to give and offer, you’ll serve from a place of overflow, from a place of abundance, a place that finds love familiar and understands it. It’s important to recognize that the greatest love you can ever share with the world is the demonstration of what self-love looks like. Love begins and ends with the way you love yourself, the way you carry yourself with confidence, grace, and pride, a place of no judgment and acceptance.

If you’ve been catching yourself constantly going a thousand miles for others, take a hundred thousand chances on yourself. Learn how to replenish your soul with the things that help you glow, the things that allow you to enjoy the beauty of giving others without feeling depleted or resentful. I’ve heard someone say that, “it’s important to give from the saucer, from the overflow, not from your cup”. And to me, the way we serve others and the world is elevated from that place, a place of generosity rather than resentment.

I hope this helps you find yourself lost in the flow of the moment, a place of stimulation, a place where you are your best and most genuine self, a place where you a human metaphor of a waterfall overflowing with genuine love to yourself and others.