As a single semi-attractive woman, I have dealt with so many advances from men who are married and those who are in serious relationships.

I have found that men from different parts of the world have different ideas about how to treat a woman.

I spent several years living in India, during this time I was in my fifties and early sixties. The men that approached me were young enough to be my sons.

I would tell them no and of course they would ask why not? I would tell them they are married. A couple of them their excuse was their wife just had a baby and she’s with her family so they are separated so it doesn’t matter.  Another excuse is similar, the wife is in another city or  state because either the husband and wife have full time jobs that take them away from the family. It doesn’t matter although they are married they say it’s okay. I would then ask them if the same rule applies for their wife? No, she wouldn’t cheat on me. Oh, so it is cheating? That question always shuts them up. Or they would say they live for the moment and never look back to what happened yesterday. Yesterday is gone and there’s no way to change it. What about lasting results of pregnancy or infectious diseases? They don’t go away.  

This one I found odd. One guy only wanted kissing because his wife doesn’t like it.

A few of the guys used the excuse that they were forced to marry their cousins and they only have sex to have babies and that’s as far as their relationship goes.

Here in the USA they would say, “My wife won’t have oral sex, or once we were married the sex stopped.” I actually had one guy try to tell me he was going to die and he wanted to experience  anal sex which he couldn’t do with his wife. I looked at him and what makes you think I would want anal sex?  Another said he saves kissing only for his wife so there would be no kissing, but having sex with others is okay? Also trying to justify that we are only human and weak, we can always repent. Another man I highly respect just wanted to make out because he had a crush on me in high school, he wanted to know what was he missing out on. He didn’t want sex just to kiss and fondle my breasts. HE’S HAPPILY MARRIED WITH A WONDERFUL WIFE!  I am not saying men are the only ones that cheat. I know woman do also.

Infidelity can be caused out of loneliness, lack of respect, one’s needs not being fulfilled, especially feeling loved and valued as a person. Some just do it for the rush and thrill .