Calling in Aligned Healing

I walked into my doctor’s office with a swollen leg and a pit in my stomach.

I had just tested positive for Lyme disease at the Emergency Room 48 hours earlier. My leg was nearly twice its normal size. And, like always with Western medicine, they told me to “follow up with your Primary Care Provider.”

But what happens when your PCP is dismissive and dehumanizing?

As a highly sensitive person, I’ve always struggled with going to providers—any kind.

Most medical spaces just don’t feel safe for intuitive, empathic women.

What happened next confirmed everything my gut had been warning me about.

From the moment I arrived, I wasn’t treated like a human.

He dismissed me. Ignored the scheduled appointment time. He asked how I was doing in the hallway, as I limped toward the office, then turned his head and kept walking without waiting for an answer. When we finally got into the room, I said, “I didn’t want to answer how I was doing in the hallway. That’s kind of personal. And I’m really not doing well.”

He got defensive immediately.

He talked over me. Didn’t make eye contact. Looked at his laptop the entire time. He didn’t examine my leg. Didn’t even pull the paper down on the exam table so I could sit. He told me to wear compression socks and walk more.

He laughed off physical therapy and lymphatic massage—even though that’s exactly what both holistic professionals and my body were pointing me toward.

And then—the kicker—he made a passive-aggressive comment about Medicaid paying for my visit.

I was reduced to a billing code.

Not a woman in pain.

Not a soul in a body asking for care.

Just another “case” to get through. Another woman to dismiss.

This Isn’t Just One Man. It’s the System.

This wasn’t just one bad doctor.

This is what happens when the wounded masculine runs the healing system.

The Pattern is Familiar—And it’s Failing.

This isn’t the first time I’ve felt this flavor of dismissal.

I’ve felt it from my daughter’s stepmother. From soccer coaches. From Scout parents who smirked instead of seeing me. From a past psychiatrist who gaslit me into silence.

The pattern is always the same:

You’re too much.

You’re too sensitive.

You’re imagining it.

Smile and follow the rules.

Don’t question. Don’t ask for more.

Here’s a pill. Now get out.

But I’m not smiling anymore.

I’m not shrinking.

And I’m definitely not apologizing for asking for true care.

This is the Cold Masculine—Not the Sacred Masculine.

Let’s be clear: this doctor wasn’t just having a bad day.

He was embodying a system that trains people to ignore intuition, override emotion, and punish any expression of vulnerability or agency.

This is the cold masculine, not the sacred kind.

The one that says:

>> “I know more than your body.”

>> “Alternative care isn’t real.”

>> “If I feel challenged, I’ll make you feel unsafe.”

>> “You’re not a person—you’re a problem to manage.”

I’m done with it.

I’m Calling in a New Standard for Care.

I want practitioners who:

>> Ask questions—and actually listen

>> Believe in integrative healing: energy work, lymphatic drainage, emotional release—all of it.

>> Understand trauma responses and nervous system intelligence.

>> Aren’t afraid of sensitivity or sacred rage.

>> Know how to say: “I don’t know, but I’ll find out.”

>> Have done their own emotional work—so they’re not projecting their power wounds onto me.

I’m not asking for perfection. I’m asking for presence. I’m asking to be treated like a whole human, not a number.

Because, I deserve better. And so do you.

If your doctor, therapist, coach, or teacher makes you feel small, broken, inconvenient, or unworthy—you don’t have to explain yourself.

You don’t owe anyone your peace.

You can leave.

You can start over.

You can demand more human and less hierarchy.

We are in the middle of a paradigm shift—from cold, transactional medicine to sacred, relational healing.

I’m not broken.

You’re not broken.

The system is.

And I’m no longer asking it to validate my truth.

5 Soul-Aligned Questions to Ask Before Choosing a Healing Practitioner

Not everyone who claims to help you heal is actually safe for your soul.

These aren’t about checking licenses or credentials.

They’re about checking your own resonance.

1. Do I feel safe in their presence?

If your body tightens or your breath shortens, that’s information. Safety isn’t a luxury—it’s the foundation.

2. Do they listen more than they talk?

Healing happens in relationship, not in lectures. If they interrupt or dominate, that’s control—not care.

3. Do they respect my intuition?

If someone dismisses your body’s wisdom or mocks holistic care, walk away. You don’t need to fight to be believed.

4. Do I leave feeling empowered—or small and ashamed?

If you walk away questioning your worth or sanity, that’s not healing—that’s trauma.

5. Do they feel human?

You don’t need another authority figure. You need someone who can sit with your grief, hold your magic, and honor your full humanity.

Have you ever had to walk away from a practitioner who didn’t see your humanity?

Your story deserves to be heard.