Dear Soul Mate,

Meeting me is healing as meeting you is healing too. I can only control what I learn from this experience because that is my own free will. As much as I too wish you could learn with me, sometimes it’s meant for us to part and learn individually. It’s nothing we should be sad about, in fact it’s something we should encourage, not only for ourselves but also for each other. After all, isn’t that what true love is all about? ❤️

Throughout the course of our life, regardless if one is awoken to their own spiritual journey or not, we will experience many types of relationships in which assist us towards personal growth. Through this journey, I’ve found a lot of information that has been very informative. However, within much of this, I too have found many individuals offering programs, workshops, & meditations to speed up the process of bringing in our life partner or twin flame. Many people whom seek such advice, seek it through intentions of wanting to rush the process. By doing this, it is not truly healing. Healing is not something we can put a time limit on. We are all attempting to heal regardless if we perceive it in this manner or not, but if we put forth a time frame of when the healing is going to end, we truly never will successfully find the happiness we seek. I am here not to get your hopes up, but to rather be realistic in this healing process as it is not easy and never was meant to be. If it were, we would never learn nor grow. This is truly what healing is all about.

Throughout our life long journey of growth, we will attract many types of soulmates into our lives in which are not always romantic in nature. The purpose is to assist us in the exact timing of where we are currently at in life. We attract that in which we are projecting out into the universe on an energetic vibrational level. Every relationship both good or bad, contain valuable life lessons for our soul’s growth. We currently are and always have been exactly where we need to be to move forward in our life. On the contrary, I acknowledge we live in a fast paced society seeking convenience; however, if we are seeking to rush the process, we will only prolong our growth as well as successfully moving forward towards the happiness we seek and want in our lives.

If we find ourselves with such urgency, look within to find what it is that is feeding this desperate desire to heal or overcome. Many times urgency stems from inner reasoning that make us feel uncomfort and is in some form attached to fear. Fear of running out of time, fear of loss, fear of being alone, fear of childhood wounds repeating etc. I am here to tell you…stop abandoning your own inner needs. Focus on your voice within and eliminate the emotions dictating your ability to tune into your personal guidance. Meditate without expectations of time frames for when “you think” you should be healed or attract that in which you desire. By doing so, we become more balanced and gain an awareness of the types of relationships we are attracting as well as the reasoning for why we attract them. We can allow ourselves to heal and grow from these experiences, but only if we use our free will to do so.

I have added a guide in understanding the characteristics within the different types of relationships and why we previously have or currently are attracting such relationships into our lives. When we gain awareness of our own ability to identify the patterns within ourselves, we can also recognize the patterns within our relationships amongst others as well. We awaken our soul to it’s inner most growth while ridding facets of ourselves that no longer serve who we are meant to be in this lifetime.

I really don’t like the use of labels, as it can cause some individuals to become too fixated on them. When I think of labels, I use it to understand what I’m supposed to learn, heal, and grow from. Let’s begin with karmic soul mates as an example. Karmic soul mates bring up old baggage needing to be released for the purpose of awakening us to our true and inner most happiness that each of us deserves. Those are usually the most challenging relationships of all because they hold so much intensity. It’s like a feeling of safety but a feeling of being unsafe at the same time. Both usually see it as the other partner being wrong, while projecting one’s own emotions onto each other and putting forth blame rather than looking inward to truly identify the root cause. This is because in the mist of such relationships, we fail to realize the soul agreement on a conscious level that was set between both individuals prior to this lifetime. Therefore, both trigger trauma and emotional baggage in which is outdated. The purpose of our soul contract, is to bring up unhealthy patterns and recognize them in ourselves in order for us to release these old wounds. It is so we can move forward on our journey of life. Once that is brought up and the lesson is done, both go seperate ways as karmic partners are not meant for long-term. However, sometimes it creates new lessons depending on our reactions and if we choose to learn those lessons or not. Otherwise we will in return attract another karmic partner to bring it up again until we use our own free will to recognize, learn, and grow through our experiences.

There’s also twin souls/flames as well. In my personal opinion, I don’t believe each person is spiritually awoken enough in every life time to meet their twin soul. Also, none of these types of relationships have to be romantic in nature. Sometimes, even twin souls and karmic partners can be family members, friends, etc. However, when one does meet their true twin soul in a romantic nature, it doesn’t mean their twin soul is also their life partner. As twin souls can have a lot of karmic ties and karmic healing to be done which will in often times make it difficult to distinguish between twin souls and karmic partners. The main difference is the unconditional love in which will never burn out within a twin flame relationship. Karmic relationships are not meant forever. Due to twin flame relationships also carrying karmic ties as well, the unconditional love is usually not expressed in a manner of how we perceive it should be. That is because we are meant to alter our own perception of what true love is.

There’s also life partners as well. Life partners are always still growing and learning but they are enabled to do so on a long-term bases as their life purpose is similar and they do so together from understanding and love for one another. Not that it’s always easy, as no relationship is or will ever be smooth sailing, because truthfully all types of relationships take work. But overall life partners work together. They also do so from mutual respect and understanding of one another. There is emotional maturity involved between both individuals. So it’s usually not as intense as karmic relationships because the relationship is not based from toxicity. Karmic partners are often toxic in nature due to how much emotional baggage it triggers within. Not that life partners can’t help one another heal karma as well, it’s just life partners come from more understanding rather than placing blame upon one another. Both individuals are enabled to look within themselves and grow together.

It’s important to note, with karmic partners, we can often attract such relationships over and over again if we fail to learn certain lessons our soul is seeking to learn. Some of us can marry karmic partners, which do typically end in divorce and if not, a life long marriage filled of toxicity. It is our own free choice of why we remain.

I’m personally truly grateful for the learning experiences all of my past relationships have brought to me. Even the most difficult ones of all. It’s provided me with the inner most growth and opened myself up to the fear within myself. It’s too brought forth an awareness to such signs of specific relationship types which allows me to see and follow the red flags turning opposite ways while looking within as to why I’m attracting such relationships or individuals. As repeatedly stated, we do have free will. We can follow our intuitive knowing or follow our emotions and fears repeating karmic relationships over and over again until we learn. But I think it’s important to understand why we perceive relationships as negative when we do, as it will awaken the negative feelings within and enable us to release such emotions by gaining more of an understanding of ourselves rather than criticising our own behavior or putting forth blame onto another. That itself promotes growth within as well.

Overall, regardless of the relationships we are currently attracting or have attracted in the past, we can use each experience to learn and grow no matter where we are currently at on our journey. In the end, our path is truly up to us and what we decide to do with it. Do know whatever path of your journey you’re on, you are truly never alone, even if it seems so in the darkest of times.