Have you seen the word empath thrown around lately like insults at a pro wrestling match?  It’s everywhere.  I’ve seen the term empath at the news stand, in online articles, even on dating profiles.  It’s getting to be a bit much, and people are using it in all the wrong ways.

Don’t feel like going out = empath

Want to get rid of people from your life = empath

Can’t stand listing to Aunt Cathy at Thanksgiving = empath

People being too “peopley” and you just can’t deal = empath

But are you, really?

People use it as an excuse nowadays, and it seems to also be popular in the, “well he was a narcissist and I’m an empath so it just isn’t gonna work out” bit.

So, in my mind, it begs the question… Are you an empath, or are you just an asshole?

Since when did being an empath mean getting a pass on poor behavior?

Also, I’m gonna let you in on a little secret, before you get too pissed at me, we are all empaths, every single one of us.  But here’s the catch, we are all narcissistic too!  ?

Holy shit batman, say it ain’t so!

Yep, I’m afraid it’s true, even the most “narcissisticy” narcissist has a little bit of empath in them.  Maybe their heart swells up like the grinch’s did when they see a baby octopus. I mean, I’m not sure what it is, but there’s something.  Adversely, the empath also has some narcissism in them somewhere.  Maybe they just hate puppies or small children – poor example, but I think you get what I’m trying to convey here.

There are too many people out there using their trait as an empath to justify shitty things.  I’m sorry, I can’t be around you anymore.  You are just too damn negative.  Well yeah, I’m negative Tammy, my dog just died, my husband left me, my kids got the flu and my life is playing out like a bad country song right now!

We all have our moments.  We can all be Debbie Downers from time to time.  We can’t beam rays of sunshine out of our arse 100% of the time, it’s just not real!

Well shit, my whole identity was wrapped up in being an empath, what the shit am I supposed to do now?!

I have an idea.  Be human.  Be real.  We all have bad days, we all have amazing days, and there are a billion moments in between.  We are all everything wrapped into one.  That’s part of what makes the whole human experience such an amazing thing!  Let’s stop labeling things as good or bad, and let it just be.  Let’s start to look at each other with a little more love, and a little more compassion.

So, go on living your badass empath ways!  Just remember… you’re kind of an asshole too, and that’s what makes you even more lovable!