Relationships whether they are between couples, kids, parents, friends, relatives or even colleagues, can be quite intimate and strong. But if your partner is someone toxic or harmful for you then breaking that bond becomes the only way to save yourself from the ill effects. Moving on from a person or a relationship in which you invested so much time, emotions, and whatnot, is not easy. It can be hard at times and may become a problem. Learning how to emotionally oneself takes a great deal of time, patience and persistence but if you train yourself and learn it, then it becomes a great tool in your arsenal which you can use to move on quickly next time. People usually use different substances such as drugs, alcohol, smoking, etc. to ease the emotional pain and trauma which gradually leads to substance abuse in the near future. So we can safely say that it is not the best way in which you should learn to move on. Today, I am going to share with you 10 easy tips to effectively detach yourself from people and relationships. Have a look:

How to Emotionally Detach Yourself from Someone or Something?

1. Make Yourself Unavailable

If you are spending more time sulking and less time being productive then I am sure that you are hurting yourself more than the person you were in relationship with. Stop being unavailable to every emotional ride your mind is inviting you to. It will be hard to resist in the beginning but soon you will get the hang of it. The best thing you can do to avoid such trips is involve yourself in work or in other activities. The more you are involved, the less likely you will wander off.

2. Take up a New Hobby

If you are looking for things to involve yourself in then nothing would be better than picking up a new hobby. There are many things you can do or try to learn. You can pick a new language, learn to work with your weak hand, go on trekking, take up a new sport, read some good novels, etc. There are thousands of things that you can choose from and only you, stopping yourself. So go ahead pick something interesting that would keep you busy, engaged and on toes.

3. Start Taking Care of Yourself

If you were in a live-in relationship then it may be possible that you were dedicating too much of your time in taking care of your significant other. Change that, make a routine, sleep well, redecorate your home, eat healthy foods, go out for morning and evening walks. There are things that you would need to stop first, like binge watching, drinking or eating, not sleeping till it is too late for bed, training to be a couch potato, procrastinating your work, etc. All these habits of the past may hamper your growth and even future.

4. Stop Overthinking

Break ups can literally break a person’s mental health, it can cut deep and all the rumination makes the pain grow. You begin to imagine things and situations which never happened or will never happen but somehow you find yourself in this state again and again. The person because of who, you are wasting so much time and opportunities, may not be even aware about it and possibly moved on way before.

5. Build Yourself

You may find your motivation shattered in pieces and it can be really hard to piece it back together but you will find your strengths on your way once you start. Plan beforehand about what you want to do, what you want to learn, what should be your steps, etc. All of this will help you to see a clear picture and will also serve as a guide. If you follow it strictly then you can even fight procrastination with it. How do I know you are a procrastinator? Breaks-ups bring depression which in turn brings inactivity. So if you have not moved on or have started fighting back, then most probably you are procrastinating your work because of all the rumination.

6. Bring Home a Furry Friend

If you don’t have one already then go and get one. You don’t want to purchase? No problem, there are many animal shelters who are quite willing to help you adopt a homeless animal. These friendly furry friends are not to be taken lightly, they are living beings and do fill in a place not just in one’s home but also in hearts. There are many researches that show strong evidence that a pet can really help ease the tension, stress and even anxiety. If you are sad, then you can even talk with them, which may sound crazy but they love to get vocal with their owners. If you are in doubt then you can even go for small pets like hamsters, rats, birds.

7. Let yourself Cry

We have been taught not to cry or how it is seen as weakness, but that’s just society’s view. Crying is a natural process, it helps ease the stress, process emotions, stabilize overwhelming situations and much more. But since we live in a society that stops us from crying, our one stop solution to grieving, then the body stays under the burden of emotional stress . Many people develop harmful habits like smoking, drinking, drug abuse, etc to cope up with that stress. So the best solution here is to allow yourself to cry, you will feel light and relieved.

8. Be Patient

Know that it will take some time before you start feeling yourself again. Healing and detaching is a process which takes time and not a one time thing. Emotionally detaching yourself from a person is a difficult thing and some people may even take years before they totally understand and get over it. So be patient, endure the process and enjoy the journey.

9. Meditate

This ancient art of focusing, concentrating and being mindful can be very useful. When you are trying to detach and emotionally distance yourself from a certain someone, you will need to

learn to be in the present moment. If you are not spending your morning doing yoga and meditation then you are missing a lot. Include them in your routine and try to do it for some weeks, you will see the difference.

10. Learn to Forgive

Last but not least, forgiving yourself and your partner is the most important step in detaching yourself. Holding on to hope is a good thing but too much of it can really hurt you. Look at the brighter side of this, you were in a relationship with a person who was harmful for you and your mental health and since you are not together anymore, you are in a much better position. Your ex partner may have their own reasons to behave in such a way that was not aligned with yours. It would take a great amount of effort and courage but forgiveness is really relieving.

So these were 10 easy tips to effectively detach yourself. If you still feel that the burden of this decision is too much then I would suggest that you should seek professional help. A psychologist can help you to understand your emotions and situation in a way better manner than anyone else.