Bottoming is one of the most curious, exciting, and steamy experiences a man can have. It doesn’t have to be painful, uncomfortable, or hard as opposed to some people say. It surely could be in the area of discomfort depending on how it is approached. But if felt and worked through from natural inspiration and sparky desire, it can lead to fire works beyond imagination.

Now here are seven tips from experience on how to have a better bottoming experience:

Firstly, I’d recommend letting go of the idea of being a better bottom and start exploring a deeper experience, a positive self image is what you need to hit the genuine and authentic pleasure point of your body. Take the time you need, alone or with an intimate partner to look at yourself, touch yourself, and love yourself exactly the way you are. Adore your body inch by inch and know that you are gorgeous looking like you do at this very moment.

• Get in the zone:

Unless you are in the rush of a five-minute ‘before we leave the house’ quickie, ( I admit, what is hotter than two men doing it in the washroom right after they blow dry their hair to get ready for a night out with friends?) you should take the time to completely get into your zone. Whether it be imagining your favorite erotic mental images or reaffirming how badly you want your partner to join in forces in between you buttocks with you, you need to be in your receptive zone. Crack open that woody smelling cologne, run your hands on that chest hair or rub your face against the stubble. Whatever that gets you in the mood to go all in, take the time and do it. Connect to your deepest most genuine receptive parts to the point that you can’t really help wanting to take your partner all the way in.

• Stimulate your root without penetration:

Only risky poker players go all in right away. start finding your sensations without necessarily putting anything up your bum right away. Rub your anus against something that awakens it, work your pelvic muscles consciously or communicate with your partner how you need your exciting parts to be activated.

Who knows, maybe you hit a good rim job’s jackpot this hand.

• Use enough lubrication:

Although you can get really juicy sometimes, the secretions of the rectum is not a fair match to that of a yoni. Spit, your favorite coconut oil brand, some silicone based lubricant (preferred if you are using a condom), etc. no matter with what, but you do need a good amount of lubrication for penetration to happen the way you want it to. Experiment with different stuff, they will all have different sensations that you might have never felt before. It is also much safer for your rectum and comfort zone if you make sure everything is slippery enough for a smooth painless stretch to happen and connect you to your radiant pleasure body.

• Start smaller, go bigger:

Don’t get me wrong, contrary to what some common social stuff might lead us to believe, size is not the most important thing when it comes to lingam. Here, the point is, not using the lingam for the initial penetration at all. If you are newer to bottoming, or simply want to build up your comfort level to where you can take the whole pleasure wand in, you can start with smaller but plugs, fingers, or even the tip of an excited tongue.

• No need to go all the way in and out all the time:

Rhythm is all there is. Going fast and full length is not always the most pleasurable thing for you or your partner(s). Try riding or grinding without really moving in length much. It’s amazing how much pleasure there is without a significant amount of movement in and out. take the time even to feel how it feels to have an erect penis in you while staying still.

• Get explorative:

your prostate, your rectal walls, your anus muscle, and all the area above and around the penetrative zone can have feelings of pleasure for you. Turn around, try different angles, Perfect all there is in one position and when it’s time, move to the next. Experiment and stay true to your pleasure and comfort, sometimes you might switch positions and it might not be what you expected, or you might hit pure gold. Don’t be afraid to go back to a previous position or change the angles and weight a bunch of times before you are in your highest pleasure zone.

• Use all your faculties:

You have  a body constituting of parts more than just your anus, if you have a penis, use it to its fullest when bottoming, it connects you to your pleasure body even deeper. There is also the rest of your body, your mouth, armpits, chest, neck, torso, thighs, calves, feet, toes, hands, arms, bring it all in. You can tap into receptivity by letting other parts in as well, sucking on your partners fingers or toes can help you feel a fullest sense of having another spirit entering your body’s field.

After all said and done, shout out to all the gay males out there who enjoy bottoming. You are beautiful, you are loved, and you are (know it or not) a natural root chakra master. Thanks to you the reader as well for taking the time to read this, either to prepare for your next bottoming experience or raising awareness about LGBTQ+ sexuality or whatever other reason that have kept you interested this far.

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