I’ve always heard people saying about anger side and true colors, imbedding into ourselves.

Why everyone confused those words in a relationship? AND why did you picked the dark side of your partner and kept grudging on it?

Why? … “Ego crushing hard?”

Let’s be real here. There’s no such thing as true color of any human being could ever be. It’s more to showing them your feelings and attitude. Your attitude, your anger side should not be addressed as “true colors”. If then, you’re just being shallowed minded enough to keep grudges on.

It happens generally to everyone out there, but addressing our anger side as true colors, is more like, whoever puts on a lingerie are sluts. Sensible enough? Yes? No?

No. No. No.

See, that’s where we’re wrong about it. We always think that showing the anger side is definitely a pathway for betrayal and destroying everything that was used to be alive. If we’re way picky about this, then …

What about the memories we’ve created throughout our life?

What about the promises that we made?

What about the love that we’ve showered upon each other?

What about the feelings that we have for each other?

What about the things we gave up just for us?

What about the efforts that we put together to work things out?

What about the intimacy we had that keeps us smiling about it, full of blush or should I say, an act of love (?)

You gave everything you could for the person you love and then after knowing about their anger side, you dare to called it true colors? No one would ever purposely picked up a fight and scream their lungs out, ‘Hey, I’m fucking angry here’

That is absurd !

Unless you decides to make them mad. When you’re angry, you’re just angry and honestly it could be the cause of the silliest thing where you wouldn’t realize it yourself.

Try telling them, “there are many ways to show anger where we could expressed it in a different manner and these would make them realize that it may or may not be a huge thing to be mad about after all.” OR could it be massive? A huge thing that brings out the anger and frustration within you.

Listen …

Every story has 2 sides of views. Just like when I showed you my palm, you could only see what’s in front you, you can’t see what I’m seeing. Listen, is all what it takes. Only naming them ‘true colors’ doesn’t make you any lesser than a biggest clown you are. Know their story, why they reacted that way, let them know the ways to make them feel any better. If you couldn’t do anything that would ease them up, never ever point back and say “this is your true color”.

This wouldn’t be any help for them to overcome it. They would just dwelled in these words and forget how to make things better for themselves and for you, love. If you love them in any form, you would definitely find ways to not point back and say ‘true colors’. That’s the last thing you would wanna do even if it’s harsh. You make them believe they’re evil when they’re not.

“Life shrinks or expand in proportion to one’s courage” – Anais Nin

You practically don’t change them for who they are but only to improved themselves, enables them to control their frustration. You could make a difference when they’re a part of your life, your journey. When you’re in a relationship, with anyone, you strive for better opportunities, achieving your objectives together, forming a bond together and most importantly, accepting each other’s flaws and moving on for a better change. We all need someone who can mirror ourselves, a reflection of yourself.

“If you live long enough, you’ll make mistakes. But if you learn from them, you’ll be a better person” – Bill Clinton

And the past shaped who you are, now.