Is There Anybody Alive Out There?.

Via Nadia Ballas-Ruta
on Dec 15, 2009
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When I was growing up in the 1980s, I remember people always seemed particularly festive and polite in the time between Thanksgiving and Christmas. I recall standing in line at the grocery, and seeing how joyous people were. Maybe because I was a child, my perception was different, back then, but people really did seem to become happier around the Holidays.

Maybe the world was a different place back then. “Yuppies” were just emerging and everything was about “greed is good,” instead of “terrorism” or “climate change.” Madonna was just starting out and the Soviet Union was our arch-enemy. Bleached jeans were cool. So yes, times have changed.

The world now seems to be more of a scary place than ever before. Terrorism is a constant fear among many. The environment is in danger and yet many people are in denial over climate change.

Polar bears are drowning and clean drinking water is not a reality in many parts of the world (including the United States). The world economy is not what it used to be. People are angry. People are scared and yet despite all these passionate emotions it seems that no one is fully engaged in living.

Every day when I go out into the world, Christmas music is blasting, stores are decorated in full glory and yet almost every single person seems to be on audition for the role of Scrooge in Dickens’ A Christmas Carol.

Maybe it is just me, or maybe I just think differently than most people…but it seems that the majority of people seem to be listless. People look worried and scared. To see a smiling or happy person is a rarity.

And if you do smile and are happy looking (I speak from experience), people literally glare at you. Actually, I had one person ask me,

“Why are you so happy?”

I answered,

“Well, for starters, I am alive and healthy..!”

Not the answer they were expecting, but it was the truth.

One of Buddhism’s Four Noble Truths is that pain and suffering are realities of being a human being. No one is immune to that experience. Many people crave to be in a world where there is no pain and suffering.

The irony about life is that we often learn and grow from the pain and the suffering. Sometimes it is when we are down on our knees, in agony, when we finally think that maybe, just maybe, there is another way. People often have to hit rock bottom before they are able to have the kind of life that they desire.

In my life, I had to hit rock bottom in order to fully change my life around. I wish I could tell you that it was easy but it wasn’t. It was tough, really tough. But it was so worth it.

When you hit rock bottom, there is only one direction to go and that is up. We all have things in our lives that we may not love. We all have our dreams and goals. We all are living in a world where greed has become a god and human decency seems to be a rarity. Manners seem to be a distant memory.

Yet despite how bad things may get, there are blessings about being alive. Sometimes when a person has to fight for something that they believe in or when there is a goal that they are working hard to achieve, that is when the human spirit is at its best. I think there is something awesome about seeing someone who has some level of passion (and I am not talking sex).

Nothing, in my mind, is more attractive than when you see someone driven to achieve a goal; especially a goal that serves to better the world. In Buddhism, it is believed that to be born in a human form is a great honor.

All of us should be very grateful to be in human form. Whether we believe in reincarnation or not, is not an issue. What is of value is the fact that you are alive. Why in the world do you want to waste that gift by walking around as if you were dead? Isn’t that a waste of a gift?

Yes, the world has its problems but guess what? Those problems were created by human beings. Back in the Sixties there was a famous saying:

“If you are not part of the solution, then you are part of the problem.”

There is truth in that.

The problems in the world are rooted in greed, anger and fear. Many people are walking embodiments of those emotions. They are just perpetuating the problems. Greed and fear will not save the world. Compassion will.


About Nadia Ballas-Ruta

Nadia Ballas-Ruta is a former attorney and almost took final vows as a Vedanta nun with the prestigious Ramakrishna Order. She has traveled the world, lived in India and so much more. She currently is working as a freelance writer and photographer. The focus of her work as an artist is to help people recognize their inherent Divinity. She is also a regular contributor at Think Simple Now.


4 Responses to “Is There Anybody Alive Out There?.”

  1. Claudia says:

    Yes, good reminder, I am grateful for being here in human form, for being well, warm, practicing yoga, feeling loved and loving. I relate to the hitting bottom to learn from scratch, I am now envisioning that it might also be possible to learn even from being happy, you know? to move things along!, thanks for your post 🙂

  2. Lorraine says:

    Hey Nadia, you and I have the same outlook on life, I think. I always try to look at the positives – whether it be situations or people. I can honestly say most of the time, people react positively to my positive attitude when I'm out and about. Of course, you get some who are determined to be angry or unpleasant. But mostly I get back what I give out. In a world where it's 'me, me, me' all the time, I try my best to put myself in other people's shoes when things happen and try to understand where they're coming from. And I know for a fact that there is a world of difference between the way people react to me and the way they react to someone else I know who is constantly negative about things. And in spite of all the stuff that is going on with me at the moment, a friend of mine whom I keep in touch with on Facebook asked a few days ago how I can be so cheerful first thing in the morning. Well, the way I see it, why not? It's a good way to start the day!

  3. This is such a timely message for everyone – thanks Nadia!

    (This needs to be a featured post).

  4. Enjoyed this very much, Nadia.

    I couldn't help but notice that your similar blogs on your own site garner an average of 50-60 comments! How about bringing some of that great readership over here to Elephant Journal? It would probably just take a few requests from from you on your blog that you would like to hear from them here, too.

    Just an idea to help Waylon grow his readership.

    Bob Weisenberg