Forgive, Accept, Move on.

Via Aminda R. Courtwright
on Jun 7, 2010
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Let’s Get Together and Feel Alright.

Some people confuse acceptance with apathy, but there’s all the difference in the world. Apathy fails to distinguish between what can and what cannot be helped; acceptance makes that distinction. Apathy paralyzes the will-to-action; acceptance frees it by relieving it of impossible burdens.”

~ Arthur Gordon

“You will know that forgiveness has begun when you recall those who hurt you and feel the power to wish them well.”

~ Lewis B. Smedes, from Forgive & Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don’t Deserve

We are all in this together.

All of it. Everyday. How we treat ourselves effects how we treat others and vice versa. How we treat those around us moves out into the great wide world. Every thought and action contributes to how the world works. And every person out there is just that a person, with fears and judgments and misunderstanding and loads of potential.

I am prone to standing on soap boxes (produced from post consumer waste of course) to hollering about injustice and what I perceive as gross negligence. I am often quick to let everyone know why what was done wasn’t in the best interest of everyone…it’s a delightful quirk of mine. At the same time I will be the first to tell you that we are all divine, each a part of the infinite perfection and therefore inherently deserving of love and compassion.

This awareness is sometimes in direct conflict with the anger that emerges when I see pictures of the gulf oil spill, when my son is forced to get a vaccine, when my grandson’s doctor puts him on a soy formula, when someone says something insensitive—there are a lot of things that get my ire up and yet, yet I am working on non-judgment, coming from that place of understanding, acceptance and forgiveness.

And I am coming to realize that this is what makes family, creates community. The first step is accepting where people are, then having the strength to forgive and then finding a way to move forward. Sounds easy right?? I know, I know it isn’t that easy in practice all the time.
But it is an incredible practice. One that does get easier with time. Today I wonder what small act of acceptance we could each do?

What is your area of letting go of control, work on forgiveness?

Whatever your area of focus we can all work towards a stronger healthier community on the small and large scale by getting together and recognizing what we do to one is done to all…so like our little monkey friends…you scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours and we will all feel better!

Yoga pose of the week: Urdhva Dhanurasana

Utilize this deep backbend to invigorate and inspire you. It opens the heart allowing healing, forgiveness and hope to flow freely – it also wakes you up helping you have the energy to accept and move forward.

Wellness tip of the week

Healthy is not just a physical state of being. I might even argue that there is no physical well being without mental and spiritual well being. (I can argue a lot) So this week create personal health by helping to create community health. This can come in the form of an Adopt a Highway , community projects or in some way taking your yoga Off The Mat and Into The World. Want to scale it back…how about bring fitness to your work place? If you are in HR or a “boss” or just a concerned worker talk to your HR department about contacting a local yoga studio for some lunch hour onsite classes. One of the studios I work for. Zenergy Yoga, offers just that. Check it out, help yourself by helping others and your wellness will multiple.


About Aminda R. Courtwright

Aminda is a wellness facilitator and founder of ARCreated Wellness, LLC. A yoga teacher, transpersonal hypnotherapist, and Reiki Master, she shares her own healing journey with others in hopes of inspiring and uplifting those she meets. Her yoga classes are gentle and workshop style to invoke a real sense of learning and designed to be truly accessible for all levels. Her biggest hope is to help others take their yoga practice off the mat and into everyday life where it is truly meant to be experienced. (and can be most useful) Refusing to settle into the middle path just yet she prefers to dally on both edges and can be seen swinging right and leaning left. A devoted animal lover and activist and a humanist she is prone to rants and believes strongly that life is to be savored and that “we are all in this together, shouldn’t we enjoy it that way? “ When she isn’t teaching yoga, hypnotizing people, adoring her husband or doting on her grandson she is out riding her motorcycle—promoting the image that yogis are rebels and are a force to be reckoned with! You can also find her on Facebook. To join her for free classes online follow her here.


6 Responses to “Forgive, Accept, Move on.”

  1. Loved the article on Forgiveness,acceptance and understanding. I have to practice these everyday

  2. ARCreated says:

    You need to come visit me for some private lessons some time JL!! 😉

  3. Mary Jane says:

    That was lovely, thank you. Just what I am needing to hear these days.

  4. *K* says:

    I am working so hard on this very issue right now. My biggest area of struggle is, but doesn't someone need to point out that some people are just JERKS?! I mean, isn't the point of judgment, in a way, to protect ourselves from people who don't have our best interests at heart?! Does anyone have any insight on this, because it's driving me nuts. I have a really hard time forgiving someone or accepting something that has significantly damaged me personally, or someone I love. Isn't this normal, even helpful at times? This topic is so difficult for me to grasp. I WANT to forgive, forget, and move on, but some part of me can't totally let go of certain injuries/injustices…

  5. Randall Smith says:

    Super great article! Thank you!

  6. ARCreated says:

    K this is a constant struggle. The idea as I see it is that forgiveness isn't condoning…we don't forgive and let someone continue to do us harm….one article I read researching this explained it like this: let's say you are in an abusive relationship…the first step may be "accepting" that the person is not ready to be in a healthy relationship and to "accept" that you need to move on…once you are safe and are working on getting your life together you then use "forgiveness" to help heal…this does not mean you go back to that person but rather you recognize that it isn't your fault and you forgive in order to heal so you can begin to rebuild. Does that make sense? and don't worry if you are still carrying something now…it could shift in time — maybe the practice for you is accepting that you have this hurt …and maybe you stil have lessons to learn from it??? It is good to protect yourself but forgiveness is about YOU
    Much love