The Yoga of Tantric Love.

Via Ramesh Bjonnes
on Jul 2, 2010
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Attraction is the law of the universe.

We are attracted to inspiring art, romantic sex, beautiful music and poetry.

Bees are attracted to pollen, some lilies have a romantic relationship with the moon, and mystical poets, such as Rumi and Mirabai, are insanely attracted to the Divine.

In Bhakti Yoga, the yoga of Divine Love, we express our spirituality through longing and love for God. Bhakti Yogis see emotions as a great vehicle to enhance spiritual devotion. Through spiritual longing, we open our hearts for greater union, ecstatic bliss and communion with the Divine.

Tantra is often called the path of ecstasy, and Bhakti Yoga is an integral part of Tantra. Tantra is not a belief system, nor is it a religion. Tantra is a spiritual practice, a way of life and a philosophy that expresses the perennial essence of our human quest for spiritual realization.

Tantra represents our universal quest for truth within and beyond the world of science and religion. Based on a spiritual worldview and yogic practices, the Tantric lifestyle helps us to invoke the sacred in everyday life.

Tantra, which often is termed Tantra Yoga, cannot be divorced from the inner essence of its own spiritual heart, from the experience of Bhakti, from the expression of spiritual love.

American poet Robert Bly aptly describes Bhakti Yoga as the path where “the bee of the heart stays deep inside the flower, and cares for no other thing.”

This focus on passionate love is integral to Tantra as it turns desire and attachment, the very antidotes of spiritual liberation, into an alchemical fuel for love and the emancipation of Spirit by worshiping all as God.

Thus the bee of the heart goes so deep into what it loves that it transforms into love itself. To become that love is the goal of the love-intoxicated path of Tantra.

Tantric love is about creating spiritual oneness and union. Tantra is about feeling connected to the spiritual essence of the universe. And what is this essence? It has many names: God, Spirit, Godhood, Tao, Allah, or simply The One.

In Tantra, this essence is called Brahma, or Cosmic Consciousness. And this Brahma is composed of Shiva and Shakti, the dual expressions of Brahma, just like light and heat are inseparably one with fire, yet also its dual expressions.

Shiva is Brahma as pure Cosmic Consciousness, and Shakti is Brahma as Cosmic Creative Energy, the force behind creation, the force that created you and me.

Shiva and Shakti, like a wave and a particle in quantum physics, are never separate. They are always together, always the same. They are simply two different expressions of the same universal Brahma.

Remembering these primal aspects of the world, we open up to see and experience oneness in duality everywhere. We open up to feelings of spiritual connectedness and love.

The primal, evolutionary force of Shakti—which is both real and symbolic—is that which inspires us toward illumination and wisdom. Yet the same force has the capacity to blind us, to drive us away from truth and self-realization.

In other words, the duality of wisdom and ignorance, Vidya and Avidya Shakti, exists at the very root of creation and life itself. Thus, no matter at which stage we are on the spiritual path, there is always the possibility of making mistakes.

Hence, there is always a need for spiritual vigilance, always a need to personify a deep, spiritual ethic, and always a need to transcend our own limitations and ignorance.

The path of Tantra is about experiencing spiritual bliss, to soak the human heart with divine Spirit. Thus, it is often said in the yogic scriptures that Bhakti Yoga, the path of ecstatic love, is the best and safest path.

This Yoga of Love is beautifully exemplified in the life and poetry of Rumi, who said, “The taste of milk and honey is not it. Love instead that which gave deliciousness.”

In other words, love that which is within and beyond all physical forms and expressions. Love that which is within and beyond food, sex, fame, and money.

As the Tantrics will say, when you cultivate love for that which gives you all that is delicious in life, namely Brahma, you will eventually experience love in everything. That is the spirit of Tantra. That is the alchemy of Tantric love.

This, then, is the path of Tantric Love—the path that leads us to experience the unity of Shiva and Shakti in our own hearts and minds, and, hence, to the realization that the Divine can be experienced everywhere.


About Ramesh Bjonnes

Ramesh Bjonnes is the co-founder of the Prama Institute, a holistic retreat center in the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina and the Director of the Prama Wellness Center, a retreat center specializing in detox by incorporating juice fasting, ayurveda, meditation and yoga to cleanse, relax and rejuvenate. Bjonnes is also a writer, yogi and workshop leader. He lived in India and Nepal in the 1980s learning directly from the traditional teachers of yoga and Tantra. He has taught workshops in many countries and is the author of Sacred Body, Sacred Spirit (InnerWorld) and Tantra: The Yoga of Love and Awakening (Hay House India). He lives and practices in an eco-village in the Blue Ridge Mountains of North Carolina.


13 Responses to “The Yoga of Tantric Love.”

  1. Ramesh says:

    To paraphrase the tantric scriptures: whether you sleep in a luxury hotel or a graveyard, it makes no difference.
    That’s the spirit of tantra. Seeing and experiencing Divine Luxury everywhere.

  2. Ramesh says:

    Dear Readers: What does Tantric Love mean to you? How do you experience it in daily life?

  3. Yeshe Dorje says:

    The luxury hotel can lull you into sleep… The graveyard may catapult you into a new experience of wakefulness! "Every day body older, every day life shorter."

  4. Ramesh says:

    Very true, Yeshe Dorje. For that very reason many tantric adepts meditate on graveyards at night. It's an exhilarating experience that has catapulted me into wakefulness many times!

  5. Carrie Reed says:

    Very sweet, gentle, and informative. Thank you!

  6. 4freedoms says:

    Love reading your articles. I have added an excerpt of this article in our blog

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  7. Robert Allen says:

    I agree with Danielou that there are three doors toward tantric love: Being, Consciousness, and Bliss. Be full in the world, be empty and open to the world, and handle all the amrita you can handle. That's only part of tantric love, but it's early in the morning…so more later…Thanks for your article Ramesh.

    And I experience tantra in daily life with a dose of bhakti, keeps it all clear and flowing.

  8. Ben Ralston says:

    Thank you Ramesh,

    It’s very refreshing to read an article about Tantra without a single reference to sex, clearly written by someone who understands it’s essence.

    With love,


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