Top 10 Things Not to Say to a Pregnant Woman.

Via Sojourner Marable Grimmett
on Jul 17, 2010
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I knew the next time that I got pregnant; I would have to deal with ignorant comments about my growing belly. During my first pregnancy, absolute strangers who wanted to know all the details about my blossoming baby bump fascinated me. At first, I welcomed the questions, until they started to become insults. I was so appalled by some of the comments that I decided to keep track of the worst insults that can be directed to a pregnant woman.

1. Is your due date tomorrow?

2. From your husband or significant other, “Babe, can you cook me something to eat?”

3. Is that a linebacker in your belly?

4. Lady, are you packing twins?

5. You should hold off on the fries, because your baby doesn’t need anything else to eat.

6. What are you eating now? Geez, you sure do eat a lot.

7. Are you pregnant again? Every time I turn around you’re knocked up!

8. Your ultrasound looks like an alien.

9. You’ve got a big head. Your delivery is going to hurt!

10. You’re about to bust! (When in actuality, you are only 5 months pregnant, with one child in utero).

There are over 80 million moms in the United States. Instead of saying something that may land you in the “hot seat,” try to say something in a more positive way. For example, “Congratulations, you look really great!” Or try, “You’re glowing and look so good!” Instead of being an annoying baby bump gawker, please turn your harsh ridicule into positive affirmations. This will not only protect your feelings from being hurt, but will also shower joy upon a woman who has to carry a child for 9 months, and most likely deal with other people’s inappropriate comments.

Version of article published in Southwest Parenting Magazine.


About Sojourner Marable Grimmett

Sojourner Marable Grimmett has a BA in communications from Clark Atlanta University and an MA in media studies from Pennsylvania State University. She is a stay-at-work mom and her experience in higher education spans over 10 years working in student services and enrollment management. Sojourner previously worked at CNN, Georgia Public Television, and as an AmeriCorp member at Harvard University’s Martin Luther King Jr. after-school program. She lives in Atlanta with her husband, Roland and two young sons, Roland Jay and Joshua. Visit her blog and follow her on twitter.


7 Responses to “Top 10 Things Not to Say to a Pregnant Woman.”

  1. ARCreated says:

    LOL…I actually had twins…I used to LOVE the "any day now" comment when I was only 5 months along!!!

    Truth is folks, even if you say something nice to a pregnant woman her hormones are going to twist it around and you will still be wrong, best to stay silent and show up with food 🙂

  2. Sojourner Marable says:

    Nice post!

  3. Sojourner Marable says:

    I agree!

  4. Sojourner Marable says:

    Anon – Thanks for the post!

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