BFF vs. True Friendship ~January 10th.

Via Benjamin Riggs
on Jan 10, 2011
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“Charity must teach us that friendship is a holy thing, and that it is neither charitable nor holy to base our friendships on falsehood.

We can be, in some sense, friends to all men because there is no man on earth whom we do not have something in common. But it would be false to treat too many men as intimate friends. It is not possible to be intimate with more than very few, because there are only very few in the world with whom we have practically everything in common.

Love, then, must be true to the ones we love and to ourselves, and also to its own laws. I can not be true to myself if I pretend to have more in common than I actually have with someone whom I may like for a selfish and unworthy reason.” ~from No Man Is An Island by Thomas Merton

Here is a recording of Thomas Merton lecturing the novice monks at Gethsemani on Love…  It is awesome.

Enjoy, and have a great day.

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About Benjamin Riggs

Ben Riggs is the author of Finding God in the Body: A Spiritual Path for the Modern West. He is also the director of the Refuge Meditation Group in Shreveport, LA and a teacher at Explore Yoga. Ben writes extensively about Buddhist and Christian spirituality on Elephant Journal, and his blog. Click here to listen to the Finding God in the Body Podcast. To keep up with all of his work follow him on Facebook or Twitter.


2 Responses to “BFF vs. True Friendship ~January 10th.”

  1. I've always wanted to learn more about Merton. This is a good introduction. Thanks.

  2. tamingauthor says:

    Ben, thanks for posting.

    Bob, you may enjoy The Seven Storey Mountain, Merton's story of his conversion and joining the monastery.

    Also, a work you may enjoy is The Gethsemani Encounter that chronicles a retreat of Buddhists and Christians in memory of Merton, organized in part by HHDL.