Learning to love your self is a process of unlearning self-disdain…
It is about resting in your self; being with your self, without regret or irritation… Paying attention to your self. This is the practice of loneliness.
Having observed your situation completely you will discover that there is no fundamental problem. You are sufficient. That is, you will see that you are whole or complete. Total. This is the practice of meditation.
Once you have discovered this wholeness there is a great sense of wealth. You are not missing anything, and are therefore in need of nothing. You can now participate in true relationship… You can give your self to another, without fear of loss, because you know that you are infinite, an abundance of energy. This energy is love, and resting with it is freedom.
The Perfect Love by Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche