December 29, 2011

“Careless Women Never Appeal to Gentlemen.”

 A few tips for all you single gals who need help catching a man…

(Photo: Sad and Useless)

Some vintage advice from Sad and Useless (Click over to see the rest) via  Reddit:

1. Do your dressing in your boudoir to keep your allure.

2. Makeup in privacy, not where he sees you.

3. Don’t sit in awkward positions–and never look bored, even if you are.

4. Don’t talk while dancing, for when a man dances he wants to dance.

5. If you need a brassiere, wear one. Don’t tug at your girdle and be careful your stockings are not wrinkled.

6. Don’t use the car mirror to fix your makeup.

7. Don’t be familiar with your escort by caressing him in public.

8. Don’t be sentimental or try to get him to say something he doesn’t want to by working on his emotions.

9. Don’t be familiar with the head waiter…Men deserve your entire attention.

10. Please and flatter your date by talking about the things he wants to talk about.

11. Don’t drink too much, as a man expects you to keep your dignity all evening.


12. Don’t be conspicuous talking to other men. The last straw is to pass out from too much liquor. Chances are your date will never call you again!



Drinking too much is a bad idea. It’s good to pay attention to your date.

But my “modern” advice?

Be careless.

Be reckless.

Laugh too hard.

Be the last one to let go from a hug.

Give more.

Listen deeply instead of waiting for your turn to talk.

Break The Rules.

Don’t be physically naked if you’re scared to be emotionally naked.

Care less about how you look, and care more about how the other person feels.

And most of all…and said so often it’s become cliche and white noise, but I’m going to say it anyway:

Be yourself. If you pretend to be someone else, you’ll end up with someone who belongs with…someone else.

It’s not about catching or being caught. It’s not about putting your best foot forward. With friends and lovers and everyone in between:  give your honest self in the most loving way you can.


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Kate Oct 10, 2014 2:20pm

I find this sooo sexist. As if you want to get a man´s attention you need to behave or do this or do that. How about we do what we feel like doing, and let them fall in love with who you really are.. Just saying

Amy E Jul 22, 2014 10:11pm

Entertaining article. I don't know if I would want to be careless or reckless. I can definitely follow the rest of the modern advice. I'm good at being goofy. Is that reckless?

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