Is it You? Or is Mercury Retrograde?

Via Michelle Marchildon
on Feb 2, 2012
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Tantric Yoga is a hot topic because some people think it has to do with sex, but actually it is more useful when trying to figure out when it’s about you, and when it’s not. This might be the secret to improving some of those pesky relationships that get in the way of our uber-yoginess.

Personal Freedom Kind of Sucks!

In pursuit of enlightenment I recently read “The Four Agreements, A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom,” because for most of my life, I regarded personal freedom as doing whatever the hell I wanted. For example, I do not “jump-switch” my legs in yoga, which is yoga-speak for “move your ass extremely fast.” Then one day I was with a world famous yogi who stood by my mat and said “jump-switch,” to which I extra-slow-mo moved my big ‘ole butt. Right? Because I do not move my ass extremely fast for anyone, and especially for a man that I am pretty sure I’m not going to sleep with. Hell no. What’s the point?

Well, the point might be that jump-switching is not about me at all! It might have been about the energy in the room, or getting out of your comfort zone. “The Four Agreements” says it is never about you. In fact, you are the last thing on the Universe’s mind. And once you can get out of your head you can do your duty, or dharma.

On the other hand…..

Sometimes it is about you! There are days when every single person is such a jerk that I cannot believe it. I’m thinking, “Oh Mercury must be in retrograde,” which is yoga-speak for when it is not your fault. But then it dawns on me, very slowly, that maybe it’s meeeeee!

For example, I once snapped at a yogi who was always ending her class late right before mine. Later she said, “I’m trying not to take it personally.” Right? Like who else kept her class late? Please, take it personally. It was all about you (notice, not about me).

There was another time when I asked a student to take Tadasana, which most people know is to stand up, especially people who are trying to be teachers like this one. And she wouldn’t. The “old” Michelle would have said, “Stand the “F” up, bitch.” But new and yoga-improved Michelle said, “Please stand up.”  Later she said that everyone was being mean (I do think that was about me).

Tantric philosophy is the answer to all this and more. In brief, it says that ‘you’ are the point of the universe. Or maybe not. This is actually a very complex discussion which requires years of study and thousands of dollars invested in online webinars and yoga conferences held in places like Boulder, Colorado, so I won’t bother to explain it anymore for free.

In further pursuit of enlightenment, I hope to know when it really is about me, and when it is Mercury in retrograde. I think this will be important to win friends and influence people. I also think it might improve my sex life. However, at this moment, I’m pretty sure my problems are due to everyone else, and that’s a very Tantric understanding.


About Michelle Marchildon

Michelle Berman Marchildon is the Yogi Muse. She’s an award-winning journalist, and the author of Finding More on the Mat: How I Grew Better, Wiser and Stronger through Yoga. Her second book, Theme Weaver: Connect the Power of Inspiration to Teaching Yoga, is for yoga teachers who want to inspire their students. Michelle is a columnist for elephant journal and Origin Magazine and a contributor to Teachasana, My Yoga Online and Yoga Journal. She is an E-RYT 500 with Yoga Alliance and teaches in Denver, Co where she is busy raising two boys, two dogs and one husband. You can follow her on Facebook at Michelle Marchildon, The Yogi Muse. You can find her blog and website at And you can take her classes on


4 Responses to “Is it You? Or is Mercury Retrograde?”

  1. ValCarruthers says:

    Oh this is too good, Michelle. These days I keep track of exactly when Merc is retro. It's bad enough during those 2-3 weeks when everything is the sh*t's than feel like it's sprinkled throughout the year. So what's left: PMS? Nope not here. Menopause: in my case that's forever so any creative suggestions as to what else I can dump it on. Otherwise, it would just be me. Crap!

  2. I think it's menopause, or Mercury for sure.

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