When Cheating Works.

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Over the holidays, I was in Phoenix for a small wedding party.

Someone mentioned that at the table behind me was a very distinguished guest.

I turned to see an affable, silver haired woman who happened to be retired Chief Justice Sandra Day O’Connor, an Arizonan, and one of the most powerful women in American history.

She happened to be great friends with the grandfather of the groom.

Sandra Day O’Connor was the first female member of the United States Supreme Court.

But what makes her even more special and POWERFUL is the interesting way love manifested in her life and how she responded.

O’Connor retired from the Supreme Court in 2006 to be with her husband, John O’Connor, who was suffering from Alzheimer’s Disease.

O’Connor made the tough decision to put her husband in full time assisted living.

Having already lost her husband to Alzheimer’s, she lost her husband again when he fell in love with another patient at the assisted living home.

It’s actually quite common for married Alzheimer’s patients to fall in love because they have forgotten everyone and long for companionship.

Says one manager of an old age home in how families respond to these Alzheimer’s Love Affiars, “I’ve seen total extremes where the wife doesn’t understand, where families just fall apart…”

But Sandra Day O’Connor handled it with the utmost grace.

Said her son, “Dad was like a teenager in love. Mom would see him with his girlfriend, sitting on the porch-swing holding hands – Mom was thrilled.”


For those of us who entertain the idea of leaving a legacy and becoming a deeply powerful human, we should take a cue from Sandra Day O’Connor.

She embodies the rare level of power that knows when it has control, and when it does not.

As Gregory David Roberts writes in the book Shantaram, “Love is the opposite of power. That’s why we fear it so much.”

Love comes to us in so many ways over the course of a lifetime. From jealousy to lust, rejection to romance, loneliness to aloneness.

Love stings, soothes, shocks, and lulls.

What seperates the powerful from the weak is an attitude… a commitment to never turn your back on love, especially during its scariest and loneliest manifestations.


The Mommyologist

Today is a good day to ask how you might have turned your back, given up, shied away, or lost your swagger.

Today is a good day to remember…it’s not how we look or what we can give…but rather our attitude to stay open and keep dancing that makes us attractive, stylish, and POWERFUL.

As Gregory David Roberts explains, “it is the mark of the age in which we live that style becomes the attitude, instead of the attitude becoming the style.”

So whether you are alone, married, dating, or vowing never to date again…what better day than today to open your heart…

…and remember, as a wise one said…that love is not an emotion, person, or relationship status. Rather, love is a state of awareness.


David Romanelli

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About David Romanelli

David "Yeah Dave" Romanelli has played a major role in pioneering the modernization of wellness in the United States. He believes wellness and feeling good is so much more than fancy yoga poses, green juice, and tight-fitting clothes. Dave launched his career fusing ancient wellness practices with modern passions like exotic chocolate, fine wine, and gourmet food by creating Yoga + Chocolate, Yoga + Wine, and Yoga for Foodies.  His work has been featured in The Wall Street JournalFood + Wine, Newsweek and The New York Times; and his debut book, Yeah Dave's Guide to Livin' the Moment reached #1 on the Amazon Self-Help Bestseller List. Dave's new book launches in Fall 2014 from Skyhorse Publishing. Check out his new show Yeah Dave! brought to you by Scripps Network, the people behind The Food Network, Travel Channel, HGTV, and more.  He is a current contributor to Health Magazine, Yoga Journal, and various other publications. Discover more about his journey on www.yeahdave.com.


5 Responses to “When Cheating Works.”

  1. JoshMPlant says:

    Namaste, Dave. This is truly fantastic, and a killer final line!

  2. Great story with a wonderful spin from the author. Thanks for sharing.

  3. Harleigh Quinn says:

    I'm sorry, but this has no resolution. None. it attempts to make a point, but falls well short.

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