When More is Better.

Via Wendy Strgar
on Mar 16, 2012
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“Fear less, hope more; Eat less, chew more; Whine less, breathe more; Talk less, say more; Love more, and all good things will be yours.”  ~ Swedish Proverb

It has occurred to me that when I explain how to use love products my tagline should be: “More is Better” because when it comes to using great natural and organic intimacy products, that’s the truth.

Unlike other creams that boast how much one little dab will do, love oil and lubricant want to be used lavishly.

Sensuality is born in touch, and nothing makes a hand glide on skin like a healthy dose of love oil. Even those that claim they don’t need a lubricant will often agree after just one application that more is, indeed, better.

I opted not to promote the “More is Better” tagline publicly because there are too many places in our culture where less is actually more.

In a land where overeating, over drinking and over stimulation is the norm and not the exception, the campaign could clearly be misconstrued and taken as permission to indulge to our demise.

Maybe the slogan should be: “More Love is Better.” After all, we could all benefit from being more loving in our intimate connections and also toward ourselves.

Enlarging our capacity for love (having the courage to open to it, the humility to keep coming back to it, and the perseverance to stay with it), could only make our days more livable and our hearts more satisfied.

Love is better when we do it more, starting with ourselves.

Overcoming our personal version of unworthiness and embracing both our attributes and shortcomings is the foundation for loving others. Applying this same compassion and patience to our relationships is how love spreads out in ever-widening circles.

Certainly no one would argue that more physical intimate love would be better in a country that is saturated in exhibitionist sexuality and starved for true sexual love. Strengthening the bonds of intimacy with more physical love is like pouring cement into the foundation of your relationship.

Sexual love is the most mysterious and transformative type of love, and some might argue, the most coveted love that we can experience.

More of this love in a lifetime is better.

Exploring the breath and depth of our sexuality in loving relationships is a magical healing balm for our mind, body and spirit.

There may be no better discernment in life to master than learning to apply the rule of “more is better” to the situations that merit it, and “less is more” to those that need it. Gaining and applying insight into what we are building and what we are limiting is a straight shot to a life and love that is sustainable.

On the days when it gets a bit muddled, start with a bottle of love oil or lubricant and apply it lavishly.

Beginning with loving more will clarify all of the distractions that you need less. Loving more is almost like a map.



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About Wendy Strgar

Wendy Strgar, founder and CEO of Good Clean Love, is a loveologist who writes and lectures on Making Love Sustainable, a green philosophy of relationships which teaches the importance of valuing the renewable resources of love, intimacy and family. In her new book, Love that Works: A Guide to Enduring Intimacy, she tackles the challenging issues of sustaining relationships and healthy intimacy with an authentic and disarming style and simple yet innovative advice. It has been called "the essential guide for relationships." The book is available on ebook, as well as in paperback online. Wendy has been married for 27 years to her husband, a psychiatrist, and lives in the beautiful Pacific Northwest.


5 Responses to “When More is Better.”

  1. :) says:

    Great article! Furthermore, sexual love doesn’t need to mean SEX! Sexuality is so much more than just the in-out-in-out-pant-pant-pant. It’s the looking into each others eyes, the whispers, the confessions, the admissions. THAT stuff can reinforce my sexuality and make me wetter than any lube.

  2. ara.t.howard says:

    wow. i have no idea what this article is about. sex and an advert… but what else?

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