Learning to let go all over again ~ The Four Desires Virtual Book Club.

Via Chanti Tacoronte-Perez
on Apr 1, 2012
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 Chapter 20: Man Proposes, the Universe Disposes

“Seek refuge in the attitude of detachment and you will amass the wealth of spiritual awareness….there is no cause for worry.” Bhagavad Gita

I have said it in more than one yoga class: “let go of…” Chances are many of us have even advised someone else to “let go,” but when it comes making this a  personal practice, we become motionless and usually tense up (both mentally and physically). What does it mean to “let go” anyway? How many times have we let go of things that now continue to consume us?

Vairagya is the practice of non-attachment, dispassion, letting go and surrender. Vai means “without” and raga “colorless”. The Yoga Sutras of Patanjali say abhyasa vairagyabhyam tat nirodaha – Through the repeated practice of non-attachment there is mastery.

There are various degrees of letting go that we have already been practicing by following the exercises in The Four Desires. Remember chapter 15, where we had to tangibly give up something to make room for our sankalpa? Chapter 19 encouraged us to listen to our inner wisdom and detach from our reactive mind. Many of us dove into these hard practices of letting go and are now starting to see and ultimately feel the results: eye-opening, encouraging and maybe even surprisingly joyful.

“Try to imagine worry and stress no longer being part of your life.” Rod asks.  For most of us this would mean total separation from work or not being a slave to it.  Do not get too excited, this does not necessarily mean to quit your job. This means that there are time-tested ways to find solace in the turbulent waters of our lives. In the next section of The Four Desires, we will discover various avenues to apply surrender to our lives and learn more about how the practice of vairagya is our doorway to experiencing freedom.

For next week, do not forget part 1 of the vairagya exercise. This writing activity asks us to write two paragraphs about an experience that had a negative impact on us.

~ First paragraph is a detailed description of the event.
~ In the second paragraph, you write about the aftermath; how it had a negative impact in your life.

Looking at these negative parts of our lives is crucial to our growth. It is of great importance that we feel comfortable and strong enough to take that step. Do not pick the worst thing that has ever happened to you if you fear it may take you to a dark emotional place. Pick something you can write about and use it for the second part of this exercise in the coming chapters as we move into Freedom From Fear.


Learn more about Rod Stryker and ParaYoga at RodStryker.com 
Read The Four Desires book review on Elephant Journal.
The Four Desires: YouTube talks with Rod Stryker
Read other discussions about The Four Desires
Instructions: How the book club works
Rod Stryker travels to the largest spiritual pilgrimage in history in 2013. I’ll be there. Will you?


About Chanti Tacoronte-Perez

As a traveler and painter Chanti has grounded her roots in the path of yoga wherever she has landed. Chanti began practicing Yoga during her first year in college & continued when she left for Hampshire College to complete her BA in Painting/Fine Arts and Special Education. From 2001-2004 she lived and worked in Havana, Cuba as the Hampshire College Cuba Program Coordinator where she studied Iyengar Yoga. Chanti has been studying and teaching yoga in the Tantric Hatha Linage since 2005 with her teacher Rod Stryker, founder of Para Yoga. He has taught her that everyone has the ability to know their destination and find that road to walk on. She has currently completed the Para Yoga Certification (level I) & her Restorative Yoga training with Judith Handson Lasater. Her study of Sacred Art and Yantra Painting merge her love of Yoga with her passion for painting and education. http://www.ohanashakti.com


10 Responses to “Learning to let go all over again ~ The Four Desires Virtual Book Club.”

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  2. Inge says:

    Chanti, thank you for your guidance. I find that more than letting go, which implies some effort on my part, it means surrender to what it, as it is, without judgment, and allow it to be — not always so easy. I find that I need to let go of my fear of being seein, and as a result, being judged and criticized. So I stay small, and I hide, and I don't follow my bliss to avoid that discomfort. So I'll observe that discomfort and continue to take steps toward that ultimate disclosure of becoming a published writer. One step at a time, one breath at a time.

  3. Chanti says:

    Your in that moment, enjoy the process…..pleasure without pressure, even when letting go!

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  5. missmiapark says:

    thanks for this one. i love your tone of writing – it really helps with this process. thanks, chanti! i have LOTS to let go of that doesn't serve me. woah.

  6. Amy Whelan says:

    For me, it's a matter of always being in control: of my emotions, my pain, my job, etc…and it gets very tiring to be responsible for all that. I forget that I do not always need to be in control. For example, just today I was speaking with a co-worker about traveling. For me it has been hard for me to travel without my family. When I do, I don't enjoy myself the way I think I should. I think today I finally realized that I don't have to like it, but I have to accept that part of me. There is a reason for my feeling that way, and IF I can be quiet and meditate on that, I might find the answer. And if I cannot pinpoint where it comes from, then that needs to be OK, too. So in that, I can hopefully let go of any expectation I have for myself when it comes to traveling…Good post, Chanti.

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