11 Stupid Pointless Things to do when you’re Grumpy.

Via Waylon Lewis
on May 5, 2012
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I’ve been grumpy and moody and grimacy for three days.

Morning meditation doesn’t seem to help. Sunshine doesn’t seem to help. I’ve been sleeping enough, so that’s not it. Talking with friends doesn’t seem to help. Work doesn’t seem to offer respite. I don’t want to do anything, be around anyone—I’m messing everything up, being simultaneously awkward, clumsy and bumming everyone out. It’s not good for business, or personal relationships.

So I’ve checked in with myself, and friends, and gathered some basic, stupid, pointless advice.

Most fall into the category of Just-Because-They’re-Obvious-and-Don’t-Seem-to-Help doesn’t mean we shouldn’t keep trying.

1. Meditation (I’ve been doing it. It hasn’t felt like it’s been enough. Sometimes, group meditation is the thing—so we can’t sit informally on our own, and so we sit for longer periods of time).
2. Eating good, simple, real food: not too much, not too little
3. Exercise (nothing forces us to join our mind and body together in the present moment like reality, rushing at us—bicycling, climbing, yoga…breathe deep).
4. Friends: their advice and their shared experiences help us wrap our dark, solid minds around our mood, instead of merely drowning in our mood.
5. Sunshine—get out, stay out
6. Dharma (read, learn, go in). Read some wisdom. Time to learn.
7. Flirt (this one comes via Dharma Brat buddy Richard, who’s had some experience with feeling down. I personally wouldn’t know how to flirt in this mood, and don’t think I’d be any good at it)
8. Dress well (our tendence when things are hard is to get sloppy. Go the opposite direction, and uplift yourself. Posture is key, here, too).
9. Get away from everything. Go on a hike. Nothing will save you…but Nature will save you:

“There is a pleasure in the pathless woods
There is a rapture on the lonely shore
There is society, where none intrudes
By the deep sea and music in its roar;
I love not man the less, but Nature more,
From these interviews, in which I steal
From all I may be, or have been before,
To mingle with the Universe, and feel
What I can ne’er express, yet cannot all conceal.”
~ Lord Byron.

10. Take a break. Take a too-hot bath. Read the New Yorker, or watch a silly movie. Go in. Close down proper-like.

11. Relax. Give in. We won’t feel better until we feel better. So don’t worry—there’s no point.


About Waylon Lewis

Waylon Lewis, founder of elephant magazine, now elephantjournal.com & host of Walk the Talk Show with Waylon Lewis, is a 1st generation American Buddhist “Dharma Brat." Voted #1 in U.S. on twitter for #green two years running, Changemaker & Eco Ambassador by Treehugger, Green Hero by Discovery’s Planet Green, Best (!) Shameless Self-Promoter at Westword's Web Awards, Prominent Buddhist by Shambhala Sun, & 100 Most Influential People in Health & Fitness 2011 by "Greatist", Waylon is a mediocre climber, lazy yogi, 365-day bicycle commuter & best friend to Redford (his rescue hound). His aim: to bring the good news re: "the mindful life" beyond the choir & to all those who didn't know they gave a care. elephantjournal.com | His first book, Things I would like to do with You, is now available.


27 Responses to “11 Stupid Pointless Things to do when you’re Grumpy.”

  1. diana says:

    i also will look at cute cat videos on youtube.

  2. Waylon says:

    Hah. That's what I've been missing.

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  4. Watch some Seinfeld episodes. Then some Louis CK. Sing in the shower really really loud.Smile at yourself in the mirror. Write down everything you like about yourself. Be kind to yourself. You are amazing, Waylon 🙂

  5. The long walks with awesome dog/meditation/long bath seemed to kick it for me! Still not too happy about the sunburn though.

  6. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Only three days??? 🙂 🙂 🙂 Don't forget chocolate!

  7. Tanya Lee Markul says:

    Louis CK – YES!!!!!!!!

  8. Andréa Balt says:

    Yea, more like three months. 🙂 What's stronger than coffee? Me grumpy too. We need to get some sleep.

  9. Waylon says:

    Hah. I think that's one thing I didn't frame properly 'cause I'm just assuming folks know that I, like all humans, am up and down and all around every day. But usually I don't feel just off, solidly, consistently, wrong-side-of-bed…and usually meditation does seem to "work" to offer a perspective of the present moment, of clarity. ~ Waylon.

  10. Andréa Balt says:

    I have more ideas. Writing a Part 2.

  11. Diane says:

    But these are wonderful things to do! It's just a stupid pointless mood. Great article.

  12. ValCarruthers says:

    Could be that ole devil Super Moon causing said grumpy mood. Yet taking a long walk under the lunar orb's cooling rays may help you turn off the offness you've been feeling.

    Enjoyed the suggestions. Loved the illustrations. Feel better, Way.

  13. Paul says:

    The Seinfeld show is sick and poison to the human soul.

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    Had a grumpy day, myself. Stormy Sandy empathy? Just what I needed.

  16. Aimee says:

    Dancing in your birthday suit to Vieux Farke Toure helps too:)

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  19. Rebecca says:

    Volunteer work or simple random acts of kindness help to put things into perspective

  20. Sharon says:

    Sometimes its good to write down what you do want, clarity for example. Put it in a "wish box" and forget about it. Ask yourself, how would I feel if I felt better, how would I be behaving? Behave as if you ARE happy for 10-15 minutes ie smile gently and walk briskly. If problems arise then just put those in a "box" for tomorrow and give yourself a day off from trying to fix things. Works for me, once I remember to do it 😛

  21. Linda V. Lewis says:


  22. Linda V. Lewis says:

    It's also OK to be grumpy, to be however you are. Sometimes trying to change one's mood or energy level just reinforces the seemingly solid aspect. Meditation isn't about finding a "better" state of mind, it's just about being. If you're tired, just be with that. If you're bummed by the Republican sweep, just be bummed. The interesting thing to discover in meditation is that by allowing whatever arises to be is accommodated, made friends with, and dissolves on its own–often with insight or a sense of humor noticing the dissolution.

  23. Deborah says:

    What a stupid article…some of the solutions were listed in the beginning of the article as things that didn’t work.

  24. elephantjournal says:

    Hey! We are all entitled to our opinions on articles, but if you are going to be critical, be constructive. What did you like or not like specifically? Why did they not work? Let's make this into an awesome dialogue rather than just complaining. 🙂 – Ed.

  25. Lauren says:

    Those solutions just weren’t working for him this time. And even though they weren’t working for him, doesn’t mean they won’t help someone else get out of their grumpy mood.