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July 4, 2012

Moving Beyond the C*ck. {Adult} ~ Simon Paul Sutton

Driven by my greedy cock I’ve made some crazy choices.

It’s clear that the world is driven largely by the negative aspects of power-hungry masculine energy. Greed, competitiveness, anger, frustration and violence when looked upon closely all stem from a foundation of fear. Fear is a big part of what creates the dysfunctional ego which has at its foundation a lack of consideration or awareness of others. I have firsthand experience of these imbalances.

When we are obsessed with me, my and mine, we are ego driven. Questions like, what can I get and what can I take in order to get what I need, are clearly unbalanced and out of alignment.

I’ve manipulated women. I’ve cheated on sexual partners who I claimed to have loved because my cock was not fulfilled. I’ve inflicted pain and abuse on my body by taking stimulants in a lust-driven desire for sex. I’ve driven drunk and risked my life and those of others. I’ve paid for sex thinking somehow these women will give me what my ego needed.

But I’ve learned it’s all fruitless, false and futile. The cock will never be fulfilled when not truly understood. It has a bottomless desire for friction. Lust is derived from this cock mentality. It is temporary and fleeting.

When acting from this place I would go as far as to say, men become unconscious. The cock harnesses uncontrollable power to fuel the actions required to fulfill its needs. At times I can feel hypnotized by its desire while at the same time excited and dazed. I am not saying the penis is making the decisions but linked with sexual urges and conditioned thinking of what a man and his penis should strive for, the cock is definitely in the driver’s seat.

The final prize—if obtained—is ejaculation. Most men as soon as they have ejaculated are not attracted to the partner they desired only moments before. Men lie in order to get sexual contact with a woman. This soon becomes unfulfilling and then we blame our partners and crave more sex, different sex, multiple partners at once, role plays, pornography, drugs, drink, fetishes and the list goes on. All deluded ideas of the dysfunction which drive us to explore the darkest recesses of our imagination. This only takes us further away from what we are truly seeking.

Men are not aware of the power of orgasm and ejaculation. As boys we are not shown the complete function of the body. We are not told that the energy within us is so powerful it could literally move mountains. We do not know that this energy is our fuel for creation and love. We’re not aware of the responsibility we hold. We were never told we have a prostate gland in our anus which holds pent-up emotions or our penis knows what to do if we learn how it works.

All boys are shown is how to pump and tug and cause friction, which desensitizes the penis so it can be banged in and out of a vagina to stimulate senses and create ejaculation. You may as well bang it against a brick wall. In fact men will stick their cock into any hole just to follow through on the act they think is natural.

Men are seeking fulfilment for the emptiness they feel within. We desire human connection but seek it in a way which doesn’t serve us. The conditioned mind creates separation and justifies the emptiness to uphold its identity. We don’t know how to communicate our feelings and often feel vulnerable which is judged as weakness, whereas vulnerability is love.

We have become detached from ourselves.

We need to move beyond the current idea of cock to experience the real cock.

Do you fancy moving beyond the idea of cock? In order to move beyond the cock we’ve got to go back to basics, we’ve got to relearn what we are as living organisms, we have to explore ourselves deeply and learn to love ourselves wholeheartedly. We have to take responsibility and become disciplined to make conscious choices.

Photo: Michael Julian Berz

Moving beyond the cock is about real connection to all that is. It’s about understanding how the bodies are designed, deepening the connection where each person surrenders to the true nature and function of the genitalia. Moving beyond the perception and psychology we have about sex and intimacy. It’s about re-education and transparent communication.

Men did you know the main connection to a women is initially her breasts not her clit. Did you know a woman’s body craves deep penetration not clitoral numbing stimulation? Did you know that after twenty minutes of lying naked together the energies of each organism merge together which creates a foundation for authentic intimacy? Did you know real connection comes from looking into each other’s eyes not from behind, with a head in the pillow!

Men and women, are you ready to start again and let go of all that you thought you knew about sex, the human form and the way you make love. Does the idea fill you with fear? If so, let fear be your friendly guide and voice your vulnerabilities, and you will experience that deep human connection you have been seeking.

We are capable of more than we can imagine. Do not settle for second best when you know in your heart you are worth more. Let’s not cast blame here either. Let’s not blame the cock for it knows not what it does. It’s just doing what it has been taught. Time to retrain the cock and pussy and while we are at it, shall we name them the Lingam and Yoni?

Men and women, are you ready to move beyond the cock?

 

Simon is an explorer of life. Four years ago, in an epiphany, he realized he was predominately living in fear and unconsciousness. All at once, he became aware of the magical life experience in all its glory and connected to something vaster than once perceived. Some say he was reborn, some say it was a kundalini awakening. He describes it as connecting to something far greater than his former limited view of self—love for lack of another name. But not the love which is in fact fear masquerading as love, but something much more pure, a love of everything, a deep gratitude for existence and a feeling of sheer joy to be able to be part of something so beautiful. You can find Simon on his groundbreaking project, Simononthesofa.com, and at his website and blog, Global Love Letters, and of course, on Facebook.

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Editor: Lori Lothian

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