Hello, eco-perfectionism? I’m breaking up with you. ~ Jennifer Mo

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on Mar 20, 2013
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My tea bag habit was trashing the planet.

For the first six months of last year, I skirmished daily with my tea ball.

Actually, make that tea balls. I am outnumbered two to one. One has a tiny metal latch that you need to thumb closed. The other is spring-operated and shuts with the predatory snap (if not the force) of a bear trap.

Convinced as I was that my daily tea bag habit was trashing the planet, I was resolved to give up tea bags altogether in favor of loose leaf tea. Every morning, I awoke determined to conquer these simple kitchen gadgets that would make me a better greenie.

Yeah. And pretty much every morning, the score card looked like this: Tea ball: 2; Jennifer: 0.

These things are evil.  So evil that I’m tempted to start calling people I dislike ‘tea balls.’ They sneered at my attempts to close the latch in my pre-caffeinated total lack of motor control. They snapped shut on my fingers. They leaked out bits of tea (rooibos was the worst) so that every cup ended with a gritty mouthful of dead leaves. They were a pain to clean, so I left them in the sink. In the morning, I would blearily dump out a sodden ball of tea leaves, attempt a quick swipe with a sponge, and start the whole process over again.

In June, I signed up for a class that required me to be out of the house and awake enough to drive by 7:30 a.m. every day. About halfway through, I made some quick triage calculations and caved. I went for a box of 100 Irish breakfast tea bags for the following reasons: 1) I am exactly the kind of tea drinker who scoffs at boxes of 20 bags, 2) Irish breakfast has a lot of caffeine, and 3) the more bags in a box, the less likely they are to be individually packaged.

October—I wasn’t sure where my tea balls had gone. I secretly hoped the dishwasher had eaten them.

I’ve struggled for a long time with whether tiny personal actions matter.

My response has usually been to say that they matter in a symbolic way, as daily, personal reminders to live consciously. What I never thought to ask myself is this: what is the trade off of agonizing over spinach bags, tea bags, plastic dental floss boxes, the occasional disposable paper coffee cup (used to hold tea, of course)?

I think there is a cost, actually. Speaking for myself, I’ve always had a finite amount of head space. (Go ahead, make a crack at my intelligence.) I am totally the Anti-Multi-Tasker. If I’m concentrating on my blog, I can’t work on my novel. If I’m fully engaged at work or school, I can’t really do justice to my blog. There’s just not enough time or space in my head to go full tilt at everything I’m interested in at the same time.

And what I’ve come to realize is that fretting about the small stuff leaves me with less energy, time and headspace to do things that might actually benefit this planet. Like plant trees, volunteer with my local native plant society, get involved with local conservation. For me, the fact that there’s always more to fix in my own life has been a sort of excuse not to get outside of it. And finally, there’s the danger of that ‘OK, I’ve done enough’ complacency when I have arranged my life to relatively green standards.

It’s true that there’s plenty of room for improvement in my own life. I still have a car. I still haven’t made an attempt to vermicompost indoors. I still haven’t switched to cloth toilet paper. I still use tea bags. But…you know what? I’ve been a vegetarian for years. I’m not having kids. I travel maybe once a year. I don’t shop much. I live with another person and share resources.

For a developed world citizen, I’m doing okay on most of the big impact lifestyle habits. Actually, I’m tired of futzing around with the little stuff that might reduce my negative impact ever so slightly, and am finally maybe-kind-of-ready to leave my armchair.

My growing issue with focusing on green living is that it tends to start and end with one’s own life, and the problems we’re dealing with are so much bigger than that.

They require education, research, legislation and communication.

I’m delighted to announce that I’m finally getting close, after much haranguing with my condo association, to planting a new tree outside my window where the last one was removed. Planting a tree is a small first step away from the armchair. Getting myself fully scientifically literate is another. And after that? Who knows?

What’s your relationship with eco-perfectionism? Has it changed over the years?

Jennifer Mo is a concerned global citizen and a long time cat/book/tree person. You can follow her green journey on twitter @noteasy2begreen and at It’s Not Easy to be Green.



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5 Responses to “Hello, eco-perfectionism? I’m breaking up with you. ~ Jennifer Mo”

  1. Lindsay says:

    Great post thanks for sharing! I agree it's hard to know how much the little things matter. I think it's not worth the life consuming stress of every little choice. Instead I focus my energy on getting strong laws passed in states and in Congress that will make a BIG impact for our environment. All the while picking the biggest personal choices I can, and giving myself a break 🙂

  2. ecokaren says:

    I totally get this. I'm no way in hell anywhere near perfect when it comes to environmentalism…..but WHO IS? And why is that an issue? Everyone's level of environmentalism is different.

    While I have kids, use paper towels to clean up my dog's mess, and have occasionally bought water, I do use this for my tea…..and don't have Jennifer's problem with tea strainers. http://www.thinksportbottles.com/

    So, I guess we are even. But who's keeping score?? 😛

  3. NancyMac says:

    Thanks for pointing out that it's about balance in a really nice way. I know that I will continue to try to be the best steward for the planet, but now I may be less critical of myself when I inevitably fail. Might make me less judgmental of others as well, which will make me a better advocate for reaching out to make those big changes that are so necessary.
    PS: I often French Press the tea leaves and make enough for two.

  4. Mr.Science says:

    While I am with you on the whole perfectionism thing. . .
    A word about tea: Tea bags suck. (for actual tea, infusions like peppermint don’t matter much)
    Tea balls suck too. They cloister the tea leaves in much the same way that a tea bag does.
    What you want is either a gaiwan(for green, oolong and some pu-erh and black teas), or a good tea pot with a filter. Not only will you be able to brew better teas properly, but it is easy to clean and you don’t need the bag waste(the least of my concerns, I just want a good cup of tea.) IT is always best to have the leaves floating as freely as possible, so even a tea pot with a filter is a compromise.
    Also be sure to have the right water temperature for each kind of tea.(boiling for black, around 180 for most oolongs, 150-175 for greens depending on the type, and pu-erhs, well they are really hard to screw up, but rinse first with hot water to get the dust off))
    You can find a number of quality pots as well as good tea online, but you might try upton tea company.
    Do this and you will forsake tea bags for ever, not for environmental reasons, but for the flavor of truly great tea.

  5. Phyllis S says:

    Get a small tea pot with a metal strainer that fits inside and use loose tea. Makes much better tea than bags and easy to prepare/clean up after!