Can You be a Vehicle for Change if You’re Not Whole?

Via Hayley Hobson
on Aug 28, 2013
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I bet you want to change the world, or you’ve at least thought about it once.




Child Abuse.



Horrible things that our world can definitely do without. (You get it.)

The list of atrocities in this world can go on and on.


It’s easy to talk a big talk about wanting to “do good” or even change the world, but are you hearing authenticity in your intentions or are the pleas merely a cry for help?

Both? I think so. Most people who want improve what’s going on in the world also have a desire to see change within him or herself as well.

Gandhi said, “Be The Change You Want To See In The World.”

So while people are huffing and puffing about everything that needs to be “fixed,” what would happen if they actually got off their rump and did a little self-work first?

If you don’t like violence, don’t be a vessel for violence even in your words.

If it makes you as pissed off as it makes me to hear about starving children anywhere in the world, be mindful and thankful of what you consume and how you give back.

If you’re sick and tired of the corruptness in our government policies, don’t act like a scandalous scoundrel yourself.

Here’s the deal: if you want to make a proactive change in the world, you need to get rid of your own B.S. first. Take initiative, align yourself with your belief systems and you’ll start to see the change you desire.

When I think back on the earlier part of my professional career, I realize I was the biggest hypocrite and didn’t even know it. I had chosen a career but for all the wrong reasons. I thought I needed to prove my worth to family and to myself.

I thought that my value was linked to what I “achieved” in life. 

I thought achievement meant making a lot of money and earning a prestigious title. A title that would make ears perk up and my parent’s friends say, “Oh, you must be so proud!” I thought I needed a title or label in order to feel worthy or valued.

So, cool. I got a law degree. I was a lawyer.  I worked for a law firm—but I hated my job. There was no soul in it.

I had shoved myself in a big fat lie in order to be this person I thought I needed to be. I felt like I was hit on the top of my head when I later discovered my gift was actually teaching others how to live in their truth. To live their dreams. Go figure, right?

Here I was, thinking I had my sh*t together, only discover that I wasn’t whole, I wasn’t happy and I wasn’t living in my truth. This was a reality slap in my face.

I knew I needed to change the world.

I needed to teach others how to get out of their big, fat, miserable lies, ‘cause I was in one. And my misery was pioneering my path. Once I realized this, I could smile and say thank you. Thank you for allowing me to see what was already within in me.

Walking away from that lie was probably my greatest blessing in life although it may not have seemed so at the time!

Many people, like me, can easily create their own misery and unhappiness without realizing it.

But once I woke up, I decided—not me. No more. No way.

If I was going to become a vehicle for change in the world I had to walk the talk and put my money where my mouth was. Life is there for enjoyment. And I was going to make the best possible choices to foster a happy, healthy existence.

Plus, bonus—I was going to be able to share my story in order to inspire others to do the same.

Are you ready to start practicing wholeness and make change a vehicle in your life?

I have just shared how I chose to step up and make changes in my life. What are you still doing that seems hypocritical in your life? Do you want to change the world or something in yourself as well? Please leave your comments below.


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Ed: Cat Beekmans


About Hayley Hobson

Hayley Hobson is an author, speaker, business coach, yogi, Pilates and holistic nutritional expert based in Boulder, CO. Hayley creates lifestyle transformations by coaching her clients to strengthen, nourish and evolve through the cycles and shifts in life. Combining cutting edge understanding in all three disciplines due to years of anatomical study and dietary theory, Hayley’s approach leverages their blended benefits and results. Her unique and intelligent style promotes strengthening while softening–empowering her client’s to heal not only their physical bodies, but their hearts and minds as well. Hayley studied at the Institute for Integrative Nutrition, continues her studies with David Wolfe, raw food expert and is an essential oil expert in her own right.  Her insights and articles can also be found on her blog, Mindbodygreen and Islaorganics. She has also been featured in Pilates Style magazine, Natural Health magazine and Triathlete Magazine.  She has fun running and playing in the mountains with her husband, former world-ranked triathlete, Wes Hobson and their two beautiful daughters, Makenna and Madeline. To learn more about her nutritional courses, events she's hosting and custom programs go to her website or follow her on Facebook or Twitter or Pinterest.


2 Responses to “Can You be a Vehicle for Change if You’re Not Whole?”

  1. Libby says:

    Yes, I have always wanted to help others. I grew up doing it. I called myself a professional volunteer. Then things happened. Crummy things. So, I ate. And, ate. Now at 360 pounds no one would take me seriously. I have a project that I would love to do given my history to help so many people. But, I can't even help myself. I want to, but how? I wish I could find help for me, so I could help others!

  2. Valerie says:

    I always talk about how much more the government could be doing for people who are in hard places (veterans with PTSD and injuries, mental health patients, those without jobs, single mothers, etc.), yet I feel I don’t make enough time to help those same people by volunteering or donating money and resources.

    Thanks for the reminder that my blessings are numerous, and that they are ready to be shared.