Is Money Safe with You?

Via Molly Gordon
on Aug 6, 2013
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If money was looking for shelter from the storm, would you be a reliable source of support and protection?

When it comes to money, are you safe from injury or error? Is it safe for you to make mistakes?

When we aren’t safe, we shut down. We learn denial, defiance, accommodation, or other strategies to minimize anxiety and fear. And when anxiety or fear is reduced, we relax until we feel threatened again.

It’s a crummy way to run a relationship.

Dealing with money is risky.

The reality is that there is risk involved in our relationships with money. A few of the things at risk are:

  • Self-image
  • Relationships with other people
  • Business
  • Career
  • Dreams

So what does safety mean in a relationship with money?

Safety means it’s okay to make mistakes.

When you’re in a safe relationship it’s okay to make mistakes. You don’t need to get everything right. Mistakes are part of learning. Instead of proving your limitations, they are steppingstones to the future.


  • What would change if you were to let go of a past mistake about money?
  • What would change if you were to let go of someone else’s mistake?

Safety means it’s okay to ask for what you want.

In a safe relationship it’s okay to ask for what you want. You can hear both yes and no with equanimity. You can say yes and no to the other person with an open heart.


  • What would you ask for today if you weren’t afraid of hearing no?
  • How would change things if you were to say no with an open heart?

Safety means freedom to change.

When a relationship is safe, you’re free to grow and change. You can try on new ideas, new ways of being. You aren’t defined by or limited to your past preferences, habits, or desires.


  • What would make it safe for reinvention?
  • Who would you like to be “when you grow up”

You get to choose.

You have a lot of latitude in your relationship with money. After all, money is inanimate. You are the defining partner, the one with the power to make it safe for you and money to hang out together.

What will it take?

What’s your first step?

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Ed: Sara Crolick

{Photo:  wackystuff via Flickr}


About Molly Gordon

Molly Gordon is a business sage and trickster for the spiritually and psychologically savvy. Her lifetime project is to wake up. A Master Certified Coach and a Certified Facilitator of The Work of Byron Katie, she’s passionate about using and teaching the opportunities for personal transformation in everyday life and work. / Molly and her husband, Miles live in Suquamish, Washington, with Bolivia the wonder cat and three hens: Viola Swamp, Sophie, and Feathergrain. When not hanging out with their astonishingly talented grandchildren, she gardens, reads, cycles, and tools around Puget Sound on a bright yellow paddleboard. / You can subscribe to Molly’s weekly ezine, Authentic Promotion, and read her blog at You can also find her on Facebook at and on Twitter at


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