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October 20, 2013

Kisses aren’t contracts. Love doesn’t mean Leaning.

After a while

After a while you learn
the subtle difference between
holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn
that love doesn’t mean leaning
and company doesn’t always mean security.
And you begin to learn
that kisses aren’t contracts
and presents aren’t promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes ahead
with the grace of woman,
not the grief of a child
and you learn
to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow’s ground is
too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way of falling down
in mid-flight.
After a while you learn
that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
so you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone
to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
you really are strong
you really do have worth
and you learn
and you learn
with every goodbye, you learn…

~ 1971, Veronica A. Shoffstall. Source.

Image: Henri Pham/Unsplash

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lweyajoe Sep 17, 2015 3:26am

this is so deep! lovely poem!

Sadeyes8nt4ever Sep 6, 2015 2:41pm

Growing up my mother passed this poem on me while nursing , what I thought was, a critically broken heart. I was young and just beginning to develop into a young woman…these words would help form (transform) me into the woman I am today. I now have a 10yr old daughter…when the time is right….I will pass it on to her 🙂

Rebecca Sep 3, 2015 10:14am

This is beautiful and it brought me to tears.

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