Kisses aren’t contracts. Love doesn’t mean Leaning.

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on Oct 19, 2013
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After A While

After a while you learn
the subtle difference between
holding a hand and chaining a soul
and you learn
that love doesn’t mean leaning
and company doesn’t always mean security.
And you begin to learn
that kisses aren’t contracts
and presents aren’t promises
and you begin to accept your defeats
with your head up and your eyes ahead
with the grace of woman,
not the grief of a child
and you learn
to build all your roads on today
because tomorrow’s ground is
too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way of falling down
in mid-flight.
After a while you learn
that even sunshine burns
if you get too much
so you plant your own garden
and decorate your own soul
instead of waiting for someone
to bring you flowers.
And you learn that you really can endure
you really are strong
you really do have worth
and you learn
and you learn
with every goodbye, you learn…

  ~ 1971, Veronica A. Shoffstall. Source.


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11 Responses to “Kisses aren’t contracts. Love doesn’t mean Leaning.”

  1. Amith Keshavan says:

    To write something like this, the writer must have empathized, felt or experienced something like this, And what has been written is pure, simple and beautiful.!

  2. Hennessy says:

    I would hang this on my wall, it's so beautiful and truthful.

  3. Dar says:

    Such a thing to hold in your mind and thoughts…

  4. Elvira says:

    Yes! And you learn not to suffer anymore! Love your self, give your self so much of everything as you need, build storage of selflove! So that if you give somebody love, you do not have any gape of energy you need to cover. Then you don’t expect to get love back to cover your gape. If you have a storage of love to your self you can love unconditional. You don’t need anything back! You have everything you need! Then you are undependent! If you have people around you and they are nice – good. But if not – it doesn’t matter. You have your self! You are always happy!

  5. kashvi says:

    Beautiful poem. Very thought provoking and real.

  6. @ArwenNour says:

    The source is wrong, this famous poem is by Jorge Luis Borges folks.

  7. elephantjournal says:

    We did research this extensively as the source has been debated for decades. Many claim that Borges plagiarized Shoffstall's work – and she has formally established ownership of the copyright for this poem dated back to 1971. Sadly it is unlikely we will ever know with 100% certainty who the true author is.

  8. Rebecca says:

    This is beautiful and it brought me to tears.

  9. Sadeyes8nt4ever says:

    Growing up my mother passed this poem on me while nursing , what I thought was, a critically broken heart. I was young and just beginning to develop into a young woman…these words would help form (transform) me into the woman I am today. I now have a 10yr old daughter…when the time is right….I will pass it on to her 🙂

  10. lweyajoe says:

    this is so deep! lovely poem!

  11. jonnakay says:

    I actually spoke to Veronica on Facebook a few years ago and she told me that she wrote this in college.