Dad Experiences Shocking Responses After Posting This Picture on Facebook.

Via Jennifer S. White
on Jan 13, 2014
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My husband does our daughter’s hair all the time—and he always does a better job than I do.

Given this, I was absolutely astonished when I came across this story from blogger, and dad, .

Richards went from blogger to internet sensation almost overnight after this picture of him fixing his daughter’s hair went viral.

I know…shocking.

So you can probably imagine Richards’ surprise when his picture became insanely popular and how that surprise then turned into bewilderment when he began receiving hate-mail galore.

In his blog I Have A Dream That People Will View a Picture Like This and Not Think It’s a Big Deal he wrote:

“One morning last week, my MDW (Mommy Doin’ Work) was running late for work and was worried that she wouldn’t be able to get DDW1′s (Daughter Doin’ Work) hair done before I had to take her to school. I told her that she could leave and I’d handle it. She countered by saying that doing her hair requires attention and the baby would get upset if I left her alone while I played the role of stylist. Again, I told her that I’d handle it. On the way out she said, “I’ll believe it when I see it.”

That’s when I put DDW2 in the Ergo, stood DDW1 on a stool and worked my hair magic. During the process, I thought, There’s no way my wife will believe me if I don’t take a picture of this. That’s when I set my camera up, put it on a 10-second timer, and took the photo you’re about to see. After 15 minutes of multitasking, the final result was a nice, tight ponytail for big sister and a happily sleeping baby in the carrier. Mission accomplished. I emailed the photo to her with the caption “Boom.” and we both got a good laugh out of it.

Little did I know how interesting things were about to become.”

Because Richards is merely a self-professed daddy doin’ work—this dad’s work suddenly became a lot more interesting.

Here is a minor taste of some of the private messages and comments that his picture inspired:

“On the flip side, there’s a small pocket of men out there that can’t stand me. Here’s a sampling of some of the private messages and comments I received from them after I posted this picture:

– “He probably rented those kids. They don’t even look like him.”

– “I would bet anything that you’re a deadbeat.”

– “OK buddy, cute picture. Now why don’t you hand the children back to their mom so you can go back to selling drugs or your bootleg rap CDs?”

– “So do you do this for all of your illegitimate kids?”

You get the idea.”

Wow. Just. Wow.

In this video clip—that his since gone viral as well—Richards explains the story behind his now-famous photograph.

And his situation hits home for many families.

My own sister has mixed-race children—and I can’t believe that we recently entered 2014 and this type of feedback is not only acceptable, but happening at all.

This is not okay. Period. Instead, we need to focus on teaching our kids love and acceptance.

(And a daddy doing his little girl’s hair is nothing short of stellar.)

After all,  my child’s favorite television show is more open-minded.

My daughter is obsessed with Daniel Tiger’s Neighborhood (a not-talked-about-often-enough spin off of Mr. Rogers), and this show is constantly showing interracial families—not a little sprinkling here and there that makes it more obvious or at an overwhelming amount because the show isn’t about this.

Actually, do we all remember Lady Elaine—that creepy, bobbing headed puppet with that bad hair cut (that my sister-in-law says is always drunk)?

Because this is her family on Daniel Tiger:

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While Richards shares within his blog a dream for a world that doesn’t react this way to a simple family picture, he also didn’t let all of this attention stop him from doing what he does best either.

Richards signed off his now hit-article with this:

“On a side note, I wrote this entire post while my baby girl was sleeping on me in the Ergo. It’s not a big deal. That’s just what a Daddy Doin’ Work is supposed to do.


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About Jennifer S. White

Jennifer S. White is a voracious reader, obsessive writer, passionate yoga instructor and drinker of hoppy ales. She’s also a devoted mama and wife (a stay-at-home yogi). She considers herself to be one of the funniest people who ever lived and she’s also an identical twin. In addition to her work on elephant journal, Jennifer has over 40 articles published on the wellness website MindBodyGreen and her yoga-themed column Your Personal Yogi ran in the newspaper Toledo Free Press. She holds a Bachelor’s degree in geology, absolutely no degrees in anything related to literature, and she currently owns a wheel of cheese. If you want to learn more about Jennifer, make sure to check out her writing, as she’s finally put her tendencies to over-think and over-share to good use. Jennifer is the author of The Best Day of Your Life, available on Amazon and Barnes & Noble. She's also as excited as a five year old to announce the release of her second book, The Art of Parenting: Love Letters from a Mother, available on Amazon.


8 Responses to “Dad Experiences Shocking Responses After Posting This Picture on Facebook.”

  1. california dan says:

    I really don’t understand why anyone would care.
    People say stupid things on the internet. Yawn.
    Super cute picture though, and great problem solving.

  2. That is an utterly ignorant statement. Words have meaning. Words have power. Words can breed hate—or they can breed love.

  3. Heather Grimes says:

    It really is amazing how people use the internet to say cruel things in a cowardly manner for sport.

  4. Hell yes, Heather. And I haven't commented on your piece yet, but that book is why I love the word "phony."

  5. Krissy B. says:

    I have actually read the Daddy's post and do did my husband. He was stay @ home day too and took care of our daughter at home until she went to Pre-K. It's a shame that people said the most hateful things on his blog…but as they said haters will hate and not understand the true. I think that you sharing this article on here is great and brings attentions that family are not one size fit all. We are an interracial family too just like "Daniel the Tiger" show that my daughter still watches, except mommy is black and daddy is white….and it is also sad that people who are suppose to listen to the basic of love and peace on here are haters too. Thanks again Jennifer to writing this peace.

  6. elephantjournal says:

    I think the initial comment is right on–who cares? That's a healthy reaction. That was the father and mother's reaction–this is no big deal. Love is ordinary. The fact, however, that this is, needless, still a big deal in our culture is the point of Jennifer's great blog.

  7. Amelia says:

    I'm pretty sure the term for those types of hate breeders are "trolls". The anonymity of the internet gives people the idea that they can say whatever to whomever and they get away with it. It is amazing…but giving credit to the audacity and ignorance is a waste of time.

  8. i disagree. love is not ordinary. taking a few minutes on a regular basis to do something with a loved one is a BIG DEAL. it's not the grand gesture that builds closeness, it's the daily kind interactions. i remember hanging out with my mom when she was very ill. watching dumb reality shows and laughing about them, or talking with her and brushing her hair are some of my most treasured memories. the small things are the big things.