Everyone has a unique constellation of issues, psychological and emotional, that they bear in adult life.
These take many forms: fear of authority, fear of falling in love, anxiety of meeting people for the first time.
It doesn’t take great awareness to see that our unique configuration of issues come from the unique trajectory we have undergone from age zero to the present day.
Why does our childhood inform adulthood in this way?
It is widely accepted that there is far greater neuro-plasticity in our minds the younger we are. The neuronal networks are growing at an exponential rate in infancy and are gradually fused and formed along the lines of our environment and the emotional impacts we are exposed to.
We often hear the phrase, “laying down new neural pathways,” when we learn a new skill in adulthood, and this is likely to be the way we learn how to deal with and view the world from our earliest days. It gives us our unique “worldview.”
Given that our young minds fuse and form in this way, it must be that significant, high-impact events, usually centered around a sudden or general withdrawal of love (father leaving the family, mother overlooking child’s talents, parents taking out their aggression on child, child being smacked disproportionately to what they have done, etc.), will leave a stake in the ground in the child’s mind.
Over time, these flagstone events give the unique perspective and perceptual biases through which we as individuals come to view life. They create our innermost or core beliefs and our expectations about how different facets of life will work out for us.
These “wounds” from childhood are gradually fossilized deep in the unconscious mind, trampled under the weight of decades of life, far from conscious awareness, to a point where we just “act the way we do.”
And these modes of behavior are not called into question until it appears that they are in some way dysfunctional, unhelpful or downright painful.
It might take us a while to pick up on these patterns, but it is possible to trace these themes or points of pain back to a unique set of events (or single event) in childhood and heal them at the source.
As a spiritual or energy healer, I know of a powerful method for accessing and healing old wounds. It involves working with the Higher Self or Spirit—that part of us that is in direct communication with Divinity and that therefore knows all we need to know. It is all-Seeing and all-Knowing—admittedly a part of us that we very rarely access.
A Technique to Release Old Wounds:
Take one issue for now that you want to work on.
1. How does the issue feel? Where do you feel it in the body?
2. Bringing your awareness gently to the feeling, ask the Higher Self, clearly, with a spirit of enquiry, “Higher Self, what is it that I have to forgive here?” (Don’t get caught up with the word “forgive”…it just means “to let go.”)
3. Wait for the answer. Stay with the feeling as you wait for the answer. It is usually in the form of a memory, or a person’s image. The feeling will take you there.
4. When you are shown the answer, simply allow it to be cleared and transmuted by breathing Love and Light into it, until you can feel that it has gone. You will know it has been cleared when you suddenly feel a shift into peace or more Light in the body.
It is sometimes easier to work with a healer who knows these techniques who can hold the Space and give the structure and guidance for these memories to be accessed and released, as it can be an intricate job.
And remember, when you are shown the answer, usually a memory you have long forgotten about (that teacher who gave you a hard time, or when your mother smacked you for spilling the milk) clear it all by bringing in as much Love and Light as possible.
I have used this structure 100s of times with 100s of people worldwide and the results are astounding. The release people feel is the release of a lifetime of repressed emotion.