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It’s so radical to be authentic these days that it has an enigma all of it’s own.

It’s very powerful to be visible with your vulnerabilities, it shakes people up in the places where they are too scared to be so visible. Listen to their judgements. They give you the map of exactly where those folks are stuck. Feel your reactions in your body, it’s the map of where you believe them.

It’s powerful and disruptive to be generous and to not run your life and business with the usual scarcity-addicted model, but to be inclusive and open handed, that takes courage, cultivates trust and is progressive.

Notice how hard some find it to receive your generosity, how uncomfortable receiving can be for them even when the gift is freely given. Notice who warns you to be less giving.

It is powerful to show your neediness some days, to show your unreasonable anger, your inappropriateness—it takes courage to be so visible and risk the approval vanishing. It is revolutionary to wear no masks, no hats and be the same “you” in business as at home.

Why do we exhaust ourselves wearing masks for people who need us to be other than our real selves?

I recommend removing the masks and seeing who stays. The ones that do really get you and are the ones you want to hang out with and work with.

Authentic people are enigmatic because most people are so comfortable in their hiding, conforming, disempowered state that someone brave enough to be simply real is fascinating.

Where have you been hiding? What mask is it time to take off?

 

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anonymous Apr 17, 2014 8:30am

My first reaction to, "It's so radical to be authentic these days…" was, "Really? Who is Jamie hanging out with?" (My mother recently remarked, "You and your friends talked about that?!")

My next thought was, "I should be grateful for the acquaintances, friends and lovers who have removed their masks and generously revealed themselves to me."

After reading the article and especially, "Listen to their judgements. They give you the map of exactly where those folks are stuck. Feel your reactions in your body, it’s the map of where you believe them," I realized that people "show themselves" and help me learn about myself, whether we're masked or bravely bold-faced.

THANKS, Jamie!

anonymous Apr 16, 2014 10:04am

Brilliant! 100% agree! Love! And finally…thank you 🙂

anonymous Apr 13, 2014 2:42pm

Thanks so much for writing this article. I used to wear all sorts of masks, pretending night and day that I was happy and successful. I measured my happiness by typical American standards… had a stable job, bought a home, had a dog, and was in pursuit of finding Mr. Right…Through the power of yoga and a desperation to live a fulfilling life, I decided to drop all of the pretenses of what everyone expected of me and decided to be who I truly am. I am constantly changing, shifting and growing which are all processes that many find to be excruciating to watch. So many people choose the be one way for their whole life experience, which I find to be tragically boring. Life begins when we are willing to expose our true selves. Thanks again for the wonderful article.

anonymous Apr 11, 2014 5:19pm

I feel i need to be accepted for the real me and if i am not then its lonely out there and thats something i am not at home with!I try to protect myself from people that don’t accept by putting on a mask and i have yet to find anyone who can accept the way i do of others! I know there are people out there who do accept, and in order for me to discover them i need to let myself out more!I had an interesting discussion with a friend today sitting in my garden with a brew!I said i can understand people who do the things they do like murder being the ultimate, although i cannot condone it for myself ,it feels as though it’s the only way they know how to express themselves, the real selves, in all their rawness .Their anger,their love,their hatred, their very existence and my friend said ….this is acceptance and without acceptance their is no love!

anonymous Apr 11, 2014 2:48pm

As someone who long been working towards dropping the mask, and has recently actually been able to, I must say this struck a chord. You really do see where people are stuck in the way they react to realness. It can be frightening for me at times, and make me want to retreat to the mask, but I've found that once you're real, it's really hard to go back.

anonymous Apr 11, 2014 7:00am

Alright Jamie,

I'm renowned for being honest but this month has been mad. I made a girl cry, fell out with an old friend and just growled at someone in the office. I am DEEP in shadow at the moment. In hindsight to the past few days, I feel that although it is important to be ourselves, if we are out of balance – say more in the dark than light – we need to be aware of this otherwise we might leave a destruction in our wake, which I often have time and time again.

Much love,

Kristian

    anonymous Apr 21, 2014 4:17pm

    phew i know what you mean, wherer are you, can you get to London this weekend?