May 28, 2014

Soul F*cking. ~ Debra Faith Warshaw {Adult}


Electric Sex

Warning: plenty of F-bombs up ahead.

Soul Fucking is not your parent’s intercourse.

Nor is it your everyday run of the mill shag. It’s also not a hemped up, hit that, horizontal, home run hump either. Soul Fucking is a rare, elusive and undeniably spiritual event and it’s the most powerful type of fucking we can ever experience.

Why? Because it penetrates, permeates and elevates us to new heights of feeling and intensity that everyday lovemaking can’t hold a candle to.

It’s the heroin of fucking and once we taste it, we will crave it like junkies, again and again.

According to Urban Dictionary, the definition of a soul fuck is: “when you look into someone’s eyes, and you are so connected with that person that it feels like your souls are making love.”

Uh, sorry but no, this doesn’t even scratch a left testicle compared to what I am talking about, so let me explain.

Just like Tantric sex, this deeply interconnected practice transforms and elevates us in a way that goes so beyond the feeling of orgasm, so beyond the feeling of typical coupling, so beyond the feeling of love as we know it, that it becomes a total out of body, transcendent experience.

It’s fusion, alchemy and liberation all at the same time; a merging of Shiva and Shakti, a total dissolving of individual self that cuts right through bullshit and delusion. It validates our existence on this earth in a way that no other experience can or ever will.

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It knows no limits or boundaries and really defies description.

Words simply do not suffice here. It will rock our world well beyond what we typically feel as blissful and heavenly in an everyday orgasm. In fact, the entire experience of it is one long, unending climax with orgasm and ejaculation not necessarily an end result or even a goal.

This is not recreational sex, but rather another tool (albeit an extremely fun and powerful tool) on the path of personal development and spiritual evolution. It is a conscious choice we make and a practice defined by the absence of fear and shame.

To engage in this practice we must be willing to expose our beautiful raw selves to each other with all the faith and trust of an infant. In partaking in this practice, we commit to revealing our inner world in a way that is exquisitely uncomfortable and divinely intoxicating. This type of immersion facilitates a way to reach “The Space Between” (thank you my beloved Dave Matthews) and to call upon the “Bliss of the Womb.”

An interesting thing about this spiritual practice is that it doesn’t necessarily have to be with a long-term committed soul mate (although that is a bonus). We might very well experience it with an enlightened partner that visits us briefly in life, opens us up in brand new ways and then leaves; another type of soul mate if you will.

Or, it may very well be with the person we’ve fully committed to and who decides to open and awaken with us, the one, who chooses to move within and through us in a simultaneous dance of four-body connection. This type of soul mate hangs around to experience and further develop this connection in and out of the bedroom.

This relationship is much more profound; this is the “Soul Fucker” I seek.

Have you had it? You would know. It stands apart and is unforgettable.

I’ve tasted it, briefly; been on the cusp of it. I’ve felt its intoxicating wonders scorch through my veins before orgasm explodes and redirects. I’ve experienced how self-talk shuts down when we allow it to, but it’s been fleeting.

To get there takes commitment, discipline, plus a sense of wild, fearless abandon. It also takes a shitload of courage. We are stripping down to our truly naked essence and this is why it’s so rare and elusive. We bring so much pain, shame, confusion and fear from the past with us into our beds; often we are not even aware of half of it.

But it’s there, lurking, waiting for an opportunity to unleash itself.

This is why it’s not for the faint of heart or mind. It’s a huge leap of faith and most of us don’t have the balls to be truly “seen” in this way. But if we get a taste of it, even just a nibble as I’ve had, then that is extremely encouraging and motivating. It is proof.

Remember, it’s a practice and even after we start to experience it, it’s likely not going to happen with every sexual encounter we have—that would be incredibly and amazingly exhausting.

If we work towards total honesty and authentic vulnerability with ourselves and with our partners then we will be on our way towards awakening into the space we need to occupy for Soul Fucking to flourish.

And this “space between” serves us well in all areas of our life, far beyond the bedroom.


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bfireball920 May 12, 2019 7:50pm

I had this once. It shattered me. I crave something I cannot find again. May not have again. It’s life changing. I described it to him as if I already knew him. So strange. Like a dance we’ve rehearsed for years. Eyes locked. Breath inline. Indescribable connection in and out of bed, but in the bed took it to a level that ruined me. I miss him.

Melina Sep 19, 2015 7:06pm


Rache Jul 3, 2015 7:56pm

So profound…and so powerful…when you experience this soul fucking, you definitely know it's in a completely different dimension from just sex. This article really resonates with what I experienced, an experience that had been totally unexpected for me… The beautiful part is that such an experience goes far beyond the physical and leaves your soul…naked. It's like when we were staring into each other's eyes, we were undressing our minds, we could see past the layers that we normally had and we had such a deep awareness of each other. He was like a beautiful, flawed mirror, and I love each and every flaw because it echoed my own. The most painful part is when it is something you can't hold on to…when the glass has slipped from your hands and it shatters and you're bleeding…and hurt…you can't ever forget that kind of experience…

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Debra Faith Warshaw

Debra Faith Warshaw is a shaken not stirred blend, of warmth, sass, humor, and heart—able to turn all of that on in the flash of a smile. This works well for her passionate calling as a certified “Strategic Intervention” life coach and personal growth-inspired writer. Debra is a different kind of life/love/relationship coach. Her private sessions focus on bringing light and awareness to her clients’ unique challenges that keep them stuck in all areas of life. Debra works to clear any self-worth roadblocks that are usually the main culprits keeping us from living at our full potential. Debra is passionately promoting the “Self Love Is Free” project; a movement that aims to bring awareness and inspire others towards living their most authentic lives through self-love and acceptance. Join the movement on Self-Love is Free, Best Relationship CoachFacebook, Twitter, Instagram, and connect with Debra on her website.