The Golden Rule for Meaningful, Intimate Relationships. ~ Ben Ralston {Video}

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For most people the dream of relationship and the reality of relationship are very different.

I believe there’s just one thing we need to do in order to be able to finally start attracting the dream into the relationship.

This is the Golden Rule…


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Clare Apr 4, 2016 8:30am

Hi Ben, LOVE this video, thank you…this is what the world needs more of, so badly, in so many ways. True heartfelt intimacy, a quality you've demonstrated here so openly and eloquently. At the end of the video there's a message saying you'll cover HOW to be authentically intimate, but I can't find it…can you point me in the right direction as am interested to see it. Love and thanks!

CC Oct 28, 2015 7:46pm

Courage, authenticity, intimacy, space…we get it! You’re video illuminates all these characteristics and more.

However, the Truth of the matter is, Commitment. Dedication to “keeping it Real” is not easy, in fact, it’s terrifying.

Dedicating yourself to this “attitude adjustment” and taking responsibility of quirky flaws, insecurities, inflated reactions, delusional misunderstandings and superior sense of entitlement, is very tough and painful.

Many function largely as victims…seeking refuge in the very best of who we invite into our hearts, and when these pillars of expectation fail us, the open wound of our own broken selves are exposed… and what do we do with that? – we run, blame, cheat, indulge, ignore, numb the truth… It’s ok though, this means we’re not ready for our real adventure quite yet.

It’s a trip to acknowledge ourselves… and to allow that shit shine…and then be able to share what we’ve learned with wisdom, confidence, humor and love. It’s a contemporary ‘Hero’s Journey’, at least one of them anyway.

Some people just “get it” though; from the outside, some people seem so centered and grounded in themselves and in the space between… I believe them to be veterans of some deep struggle that can never be fully understood unless you too have crossed over.

Personally, I have just begun the most exciting and elevated relationship in my 20 years of brilliant leaps (belly flops) into the dating abyss. And let me say still, it’s a challenge to just be me…and not to react, take things personally, let stuff go, stay rooted and embrace the space. Conversely, inspiring the other to do the same, by association, as a flawed model, is tastefully ironic!

Thank you for inspiring this rant by sharing your journey, recollections and impressions in this video. Cheers.

Kozmikjewel Oct 27, 2015 11:05pm

Omg! I would so love to have u as my therapist. Everything u said made complete sense. At this point in time in my life, this was exactly what I needed to hear. I've been trying to put what I felt into words. And u have now given me the words. Thank you so much. Bless xx

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Ben Ralston

Ben Ralston has been practising personal development—necessity being the Mother of invention—since he was about six years old. He’s been teaching and sharing what he’s learnt along the way for a couple of decades. His main thing is Heart of Tribe retreats—whose very purpose is to help you fall back in love with life, no less. Leading these retreats alongside his woman Kara-Leah Grant—also an elephant journal writer (that’s how they met!)—they combine a deep well of lineage-based yoga teaching experience, with expertise in healing trauma and various other methods of personal development. Ben also works with clients one-on-one via Skype, writes, makes videos from time to time, and is passionate about parenting.
He lives in an intentional, tribal community in the hills of Croatia, where you might find him gardening barefoot and talking to the rocks. Connect with Ben on Facebook or YouTube or check out his website for more info.