I’m not typically interested in celebrity tweets, Instagram photos and the like—but when when I read the trending headline “Kurt Cobain: Courtney Love Writes Message to Late Husband on Instagram,” I couldn’t help but be intrigued.
Not only is it a music related tidbit—but it’s referencing one of those moments that becomes forever etched in history. Music history, in this case, but history nonetheless.
Folks from my parents era used to talk about remembering where they were the moment they learned JFK died.
Whereas, I remember that moment—sitting on my sister’s bed, in her room, watching MTV—when an “MTV News Special Alert” came on, and Kurt Loader announced the death of Nirvana guitarist and front-man, Kurt Cobain. Death from a self-inflicted gunshot wound.
I wasn’t even a huge Nirvana fan, to be honest—I was never really into the grunge thing—but I was a teenager, growing up in the 90s and there’s no denying the emotion behind the song “Smells Like Teen Spirit.”
It was shocking news. And when one can reflect upon one’s life, like flipping through records across a spectrum of time, that’s the sort of thing that sticks with you.
So I clicked—and I looked at the photos and the captions.
Courtney Love posted two images from the same photoshoot to her Instagram feed. The images depicted Kurt Cobain, herself and their baby daughter, Frances Bean.
The second: “Makes me feel so sad. Our baby is all grown up now. Jesus Kurt look at her face, what on earth were you thinking..!?!? God I miss you, we all miss you #family #memories #turnbacktime #lovehim.”
Their daughter Frances, who was not yet 2-years-old, when Cobain took his own life, just turned 23-years-old this month, on August 18th.
Perhaps that’s why Courtney Love was looking at old family photos?
Of course, the comments on Love’s Instagram feed included a healthy smattering of people claiming that Love is actually the force behind Cobain’s untimely death. And there are comments from folks saying, that it’s simply a publicity stunt, to stir up public interest in the Kurt Cobain documentary that was released earlier this year.
I suppose nobody can really know the motivation behind those posts, other than Love herself.
But it’s difficult not to feel compassion for another human being—a person who is simply missing someone.
“God I miss you, we all miss you.”
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