F*ck the Labels & Just Be You.

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Have you ever labeled yourself?

Have you been labeled by someone else? By society, friends, lovers, ex-lovers, ex-friends or even family?

I have.

We all have.

We slap labels on ourselves like stickers, accepting each one, until we’re walking around covered in these words, their stories, the bullshit names that we have placed on ourselves—or that others have given us.

And its not their fault—others have labels too, that they’ve blindingly accepted.

“You’re too sensitive.”

“Oh, right you are! Let me just write that down on a sticky note quickly, and tape it too my forehead, so I will never forget it. Cheers!”

So along we go—giving, receiving, accepting, judging and wearing these labels like dog tags for the rest of our lives.

It starts from the very second we are born—boy or girl. Now I get that there are some obvious ways in which this distinction might be a necessary one. But there are also many ways in which it’s not necessary. For instance, when we equate boy with the color blue, toy trucks, cowboys and being aggressive or rough. Or when we equate girl with the color pink, dresses, princesses and being sensitive or sweet.

Because that’s not always the case, is it? I know plenty of sweetly sensitive little boys, and plenty of loud, ratbaggish, amazing little girls—and I love it.

It doesn’t end there though, does it? Through primary school, high school and university, we hear—nerd, whore, stoner, geek, sporty, smart, and on and on.

These words aren’t just words. They are loaded with judgments, misconstrues, misconceptions, anger, hurt, fear and ignorance.

These words are labels—and labels are bullshit.

So, as of right now, I invite you to rip each off each one—each label— and just be you. Whatever that may be, and you don’t need to use words—you are you.

You are a magical being—a magnificent creation that will never be again.

So why do we, so often,  look to these labels?

Does it make life easier, to nominate, segregate, discriminate and regurgitate?

Is it simply easier to say, “I’m an introvert, a student and a heterosexual?”

Perhaps it is—perhaps that is the sad and true reflection of our cookie cutter, same-same, color-in-the-lines society.

But you know what these labels—this conformity and these unrealistic clone-like expectations—are not easier for?

Our souls.

Labels are never ever good for one’s soul.

Our souls do not want to fit in.

A soul does not want to be boxed up into being defined as feminine, demanding, lesbian, boisterous or generous.

Each soul is a unique expression of the universe.

Your soul knows what it wants—without prejudice, reason or persecution.

Your soul know what it wants—with passion, wisdom and with unbridled truth.

Your soul knows what it wants, without apology.

So right now I’m ripping off my labels, in front of you—for you, with you and for me.

Extovert, Health Coach, Sensitive, Empath, Party Girl, Ex-party Girl, Pisshead, Ex-pisshead, Runner, Univerity Student, Factory Worker, Grease Monkey, Slut, Promiscious, Brave, Bi, Gregarious, Spiritual, Hippie, Bogan, Attention Seeker, Generous, Open Hearted, Crazy, People Pleaser, Old Soul, Strong, Stoner, Lover, Fighter, Daughter, Sister, Best friend.

These are just to name a few.

I am none of these things, and I am all of these things.

I am all of these things, and I am none of these things.

I am fluid and changing and evolving and expanding—and the only thing I ever can and will be is me.

Just like the only thing you can ever be is you.

And that is what is brilliant—and epic and poetic—and down right, fucking beautiful.

Are you tired? I’m so very tired.

Tired of seeing the same thing—the same idealistic bullshit picture of perfection.

One that does not exist.

And why would we want it to?

Difference and expression and creativity—raw human-ness—is what makes this live worth living.

So who’s with me?

Stand up with me right now, and shout, “Fuck the labels!”

Embrace your beautiful contradictions, your exquisite imperfections and your damn fine self.

Even if you’re in a crowded café right now, I dare you—start a revolution with me!

Shout it out—wherever you are—right now.

Fuck the labels!

Lets raise the roof, and raise our vibration.

Strip the story. Forget the bullshit. Be wild. Be free. Be unapologetic. Be epic. Be you. Be beautiful you—always. With all that you are, and in everything that you do.

That is all you ever have to do—just be you.

Because you’re magic. You are irreplaceable. You are indescribable. You are indefinable.

Fuck the labels.

Be you.

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Relephant:

Shaving My Labels.

Let’s Lose the Labels.

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Author: Megan Gogoll

Editor: Yoli Ramazzina

Photos: Flickr/Bailey WeaverFlickr/Patrick Humphries

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Megan Gogoll

Megan Gogoll is a life coach, writer and wild-heart poet. Her mission is to work with courageous souls who are ready to navigate their true north and reveal their bright shining inner diamond to the world. If you’re ready to live life with passion, purpose and an open heart—connect with Megan at her website.

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anonymous Aug 31, 2015 3:15pm

You go girl!!!!!

anonymous Aug 31, 2015 1:45pm

Hell yes!

anonymous Aug 31, 2015 5:15am

Brilliant article Meegs! Congratulations! I overheard someone the other day saying “I can’t believe he said is is an introvert, there is no way he is…” and I was like WTF? I’m with you… Fuck the labels!

    anonymous Aug 31, 2015 6:18am

    Aw cheers Becca!! Its kind of crazy how much we can all throw these labels around hey.. without maybe realising there's an unwarranted inuendo there.. Thank you so much for joining the revolution with me ya gorgeous creature! #fuckthelabels

anonymous Aug 30, 2015 4:41pm

Yes Elizabeth that's it! We get these labels and before we not they're plastered on us and we feel restricted by them. But you are right on the money babe.. all you ever have to be is your exquisitely beautiful self and explore and create and leave those labels behind! Thank you for sharing in this babe, really stoked it resonated X

anonymous Aug 30, 2015 9:29am

I love this! Not only is written with sich beautiful power, but its so wonderfully raw! Pieces like this are why elephant journal inspires me and reminds me to write again.

I agree whole heartedly with this. Fuck the labels! I’m tired of trying to live up to them. Somedays I don’t want to be the “hippie chick with the gypsy soul,” somedays all I want is to go home and go to school and find something else. I’ve done my gypsy traveling and I’m tired of living up to that label.

Yes, I was a huge fan of a great band, but now I’ve moved on to music. I don’t want to be their number 1 fan all the time when the is so much more to explore.

If I have to choose a label, I just want to be Honestly ME.

Peace ❤

anonymous Aug 30, 2015 8:13am

Thank You for putting into words what I couldn’t figure out how to explain to others. It’s time to show the world how ridiculous, and negative labels are to a person’s self confidence.

    anonymous Aug 30, 2015 4:37pm

    Thank YOU Chad. You are spot on.. labels do nothing for a persons self esteem, or self awareness as they are a tool of judgement and segregation. Keep opening those minds my friend! More power to you!

anonymous Aug 30, 2015 7:45am

Fantastic piece! LOVE it. It’s loaded with authenticity and filled with realness. I’m with you, sister, “Fuck the Labels!!” I AM ME.

    anonymous Aug 30, 2015 9:20am

    I absolutely LOVE that you signed this I AM ME!

    I used to sign the walls in thw bathroom at school this way. No labels. Just ME. I think I even have a poem somewhere about being just a happy ME. You are spectacularly YOU! Fuck the labels!

    anonymous Aug 30, 2015 4:35pm

    Cheers Nyla! Means the world to me beauty! Lets celebrate that shit. I AM ME! Hell yes. And YOU are damn fine! 😉 X

anonymous Aug 29, 2015 11:35pm

Beautiful

anonymous Aug 29, 2015 8:07pm

Awesome. We need more of this good stuff being circulated! Proud of you, love this piece!

    anonymous Aug 29, 2015 8:29pm

    Thank you so much Asja! Really appreciate your support my gorgeous and I am totally stoked this piece resonates with you! Much love babe X