Walking my Way through Chronic Fatigue Syndrome: A Spiritual Pilgrimage.

Via Nick Meador
on Aug 6, 2015
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Living with chronic illness I often cycle between gratitude for life’s hidden meanings, a subtle aching for a cure, and a spiral of despair when one fails to appear. But now I’m seeing those aren’t the only options.

Muscle pain, exhaustion, and mental fog have been a daily part of my life for most of the last four years. The diagnosis of chronic fatigue syndrome (CFS) doesn’t provide an adequate medical explanation, since the condition is still poorly understood.

At the beginning, I couldn’t help but interpret this situation through a mystical lens. It had to be part of a “spiritual crisis.” Only that perspective made any sense—that “the universe” had unforeseen plans for me.

The illness has undoubtedly sent me down a path of self-development that I might have never have found in “normal” health. My search for answers led to holistic facilitation paradigms and body-oriented therapies, which in turn awoke in me a desire to be a facilitator. Now I’m building a practice offering group workshops and private sessions focused on communication and awareness, driven by a mission to empower and liberate people.

Yet despite this new purpose and direction in my life, I couldn’t shake the desire for the symptoms to magically and permanently vanish. It would creep up on me every time I thought I had found peace with my fate. An inner voice would say, “There’s no way you’re going to deal with this your whole life!” Yet I had exhausted all known options in the realms of allopathic medicine, alternative medicine, shamanism and beyond.

I found a few gems, no doubt. The renowned Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota, had a surprisingly holistic viewpoint on CFS. They discredited an old explanation that Epstein-Barr Virus had caused the condition. The doctors believed my nervous system had become over-sensitized, and that certain lifestyle changes implemented gradually could result in a drastic reduction of symptoms within a few years. They gave me instructions for nutrition, physical activity (especially yoga), social activity, sleep—and even pamphlets on forgiveness, perfectionism and assertiveness. My gentle, meditative, independent yoga practice has indeed provided pain relief and emotional groundedness.

Then in late 2014 I saw the movie Wild, based on Cheryl Strayed’s autobiographical book about walking the Pacific Crest Trail. The story of her literal and symbolic path of personal healing and transformation sparked a fire within me. With the state of my health, I thought it would be absurd to attempt hiking 2,000 miles up and down mountains in the wilderness. But I recalled a friend’s story of walking Spain’s Camino de Santiago (Way of St. James) spiritual pilgrimage in 2013. I thought this relatively flatter walk between villages might actually work for me.

Early this year, I heard that the Deep Democracy Institute (DDI) would be holding their annual 10-day intensive in Barcelona this October. The global think-tank provides training in leadership and large group facilitation that can be put to use in situations as diverse as international conflict resolution, organizational and governmental communications consulting and grassroots movement coordination.

This was enough for me to make a loose plan to walk the Camino, part before and part after the DDI Intensive. Actually my first goal was to walk only 60 of the Camino’s 500 miles, the bare minimum for a pilgrim to be awarded a “Compostela” (i.e., a certificate of achievement). Even that seemed a little crazy, given my experience of debilitating pain and fatigue. But while meditating in May, I was struck by a calling to attempt the whole Camino del Norte—the less populated route along Spain’s northern coast.

I held onto that dream through the unpredictable ups and downs of life with CFS. I expected the warmer weather to result in less consistent symptoms. It didn’t. When some relief appeared, I was always haunted by fears of crashing again.

A wave of hope arrived in June when I finally participated in my first cacao ceremony. I felt clear and energized afterwards, so I began experimenting with daily cacao intake at home. While too early to say conclusively, it appears to lower my overall pain levels while boosting my energy and determination.

Then I launched a structured Camino training program in mid-July. Within three weeks I surpassed my schedule for daily weight and distance, and I remain on that trajectory. Each day I am simply astounded. My legs feel more muscular than they have in years. After all the unsuccessful trials with health practitioners, medications and supplements, maybe I’m now making the kind of progress promised by the Mayo Clinic.

Many fears have arisen throughout this process. What if I can’t walk as much of the Camino as I’d like? What if I can’t make it to a pilgrim’s hostel and have to sleep outside without dinner? What if I experience a huge crash and spend some time feeling really sick in a remote Spanish village?

Yet when I’m walking the daily mileage with my pack on, all that seems to fade away. Instead I just feel focused on the trip’s mission, which allows me to transcend pain, exhaustion, and fogginess. I feel connected to my instinct, which will surely guide me through difficult situations on the Camino.

I don’t expect to be cured when I get back. I don’t expect all of life’s questions and confusions to magically become answered and clarified. Though I do expect to feel more genuinely me than I ever have before. And for that reason, this could turn out to be one of the best projects I have ever undertaken.

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More Information:

1) Chronic fatigue syndrome. Mayo Clinic.

2) Wild (film)

3) Camino de Santiago.

4) DDI Intensive 2015, Barcelona, Spain. Deep Democracy Institute. 

5) Ceremonial Grade Cacao—Experiencing Chocolate as the Magical Partner It Is. Ceremonial Cacao.

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Author: Nick Meador

Editor: Travis May

Photos: author’s own 


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About Nick Meador

Nick Meador is a holistic facilitator, intuitive coach, and writer. He offers healing and self-development experiences focused on conscious communication and integrated awareness. Nick is running a fundraiser to help make his Spain trip more feasible.

Bio photo credit: bio photo (photo by C.S. Closson of Project Bring Me to Life, used with permission)

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Comments

13 Responses to “Walking my Way through Chronic Fatigue Syndrome: A Spiritual Pilgrimage.”

  1. Shannon says:

    Beautiful story Nick! glad you could share! I hope your journey is everything you’ve dreamt up in a positive manner and that your worries are let go with the wind as it blows against your face and you step into your new future of a fulfilled healthy life. Shine on mr!

  2. Nick Meador says:

    Thanks, Shannon! That means a lot to me. 🙂 <3

  3. Katje Wagner says:

    What a beautiful and inspiring journey – thank you for sharing your story and the wisdom you are finding on the path…

  4. merlintheyogin says:

    Hi Nick – if there is one thing i can offer from what i have learnt with a similar condition it is that you need to expect to get better – calmly talk to those subconscious doubts and reassure them that you have been well and are getting well (and that you can get well quickly, this doesn't need to take ages) – you can even tell them that you are well now, you will be surprised at the results. The more often you stop these doubts with calm, reassuring words (basically talking to your subconscious), the sooner you will change these patterns of thought – there has been much written on this, from friedemann schaub (fear and anxiety solution) to some of lissa rankins work and many others including david berceli and TRE. good luck and if you would like any further info, please email me – i'm no expert but have learnt much about this side of things and have found many things that worked for me – if they can work for others then all the better.

  5. Carolina Fernandez says:

    Nice story. Walk on!

  6. Nick Meador says:

    I appreciate your support! 🙂

  7. Nick Meador says:

    Thanks for the kind words! 🙂

  8. Nick Meador says:

    Hello, thanks very much! It sounds like great advice. Similar ideas have come to me from a few places lately. 🙂 I would indeed like to hear more. I don't know how to contact you privately. But you can reach me by email at NMfaciliator @ gmail.com (no spaces).

  9. Tim H says:

    Thanks for sharing Nick. Been down this road for the last 14 years. Frustrating, I know. You may check out Dr Shoemakers work on mold toxicity. I recently did and began working with him privately. To our Best Health.

  10. Nick Meador says:

    Tim, that doctor sounds vaguely familiar. I appreciate the tip. It seems like such a personal condition and journey of recovery. I've heard stories of people benefiting from countless kind of treatments, lifestyle changes, etc. Best wishes to you.

  11. Jen says:

    Wonderful story and many blessings to you on your journey to better health! Kudos to using your experiences to help others.

  12. Nick Meador says:

    Thank you, Jen! I'm thriving on the support of others, and also happy to give hope to others overcoming similar setbacks.

  13. Jay says:

    Sorry to hear of your suffering. This must be extremely frustrating, which probably only amplifies the condition. This seems like something that could have been received stored as an ancestral pattern, either in how you deal with your stress, manifesting in your breathing. As a facilitator, you are also exposing yourself to quite a bit of of outside challenges. Remember to spend more time taking care of yourself, as you do take care of others.

    I am curious if you have looked into the Buteyko breathing method.
    What is it? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yAmrakBpZYk
    Explanation of the actual method, including other informative links. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=K-sqR2-OnNc

    Best of luck on your journeys. I hope you find peace.

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