In my practice as a women’s sexuality and empowerment coach, I talk to a lot of women who experience little to no sensation inside the vagina during penetration.

They tell me they feel like something is wrong with them—like they’re broken sexually.

I tell them that are not broken, they just have a numb vagina, and it’s completely possible to re-sensitize it.

I know this from personal experience, because the inside of my vagina was numb for years.

One of the main reasons so many women have numb vaginas is that they have allowed themselves to be penetrated before they are ready or when they don’t want sex at all.

When we allow ourselves to be penetrated before we’re ready, our vagina tenses up during sex, which blocks us from feeling sensation. This tension will eventually lead to a chronic lack of sensation.

But, it’s absolutely possible to re-sensitize the vagina, and there are many ways to do so:

1. Internal Vaginal Massage.

Massaging the vaginal walls can work wonders to re-sensitize the vagina. Just like massaging any kind of muscle, massaging the muscles inside the vagina can release tension and increase blood flow, which leads to greater sensation.

You can massage your vaginal walls yourself, or ask your partner if you have one. Go slowly, and locate areas of pain or tension inside your vagina, then massage those areas with medium pressure. Make sure to breathe.

Emotions like grief or anger may arise as you massage, because many of us hold painful emotions inside us.

Allow the emotions to arise without giving in to any tendency to stuff them down. They are arising to be released.

2. Holistic Pelvic Care.

Holistic Pelvic Care was created by a woman named Tami Kent and described in her book called The Wild Feminine. 

I recommend this book to all my private clients. There are many pelvic exercises in this book that will help release tension, reconnect a woman to her pelvic-floor, and re-sensitize the vagina.

3. Re-Sensitizing Somatic Sexuality.

There are a lot of body based sexuality practices out there that can help re-sensitize the vagina.

The one I recommend to my private clients is Orgasmic Meditation. You can do a quick Google search to find our more about Orgasmic Mediation, or check out my website listed in my bio.

Although this practice is focused on the clitoris, the clitoris interacts with over 15,000 nerve endings throughout the whole pelvic area. So, anything that increases sensation in the clitoris affects the entire pelvic floor region.

4. Allow yourself to be Penetrated Only When you are Ready.

This one is critical in the process of re-sensitizing the vagina. We can’t re-sensitize the vagina while simultaneously causing tension.

Most women tell me they allow themselves to be penetrated before they are ready, because they feel self-conscious they are “taking too long” to feel ready.

I get it! I used to feel the same way. But, if our partners are worth staying with, they would never want to penetrate us before we’re ready.

By ready, I mean that we want to be penetrated so badly, we’re begging for it.

If we are not at this point, then our vagina is not open, wet, and soft enough for penetration to be pleasurable.

Many women have told me that they have never felt turned-on enough, to want penetration that badly. If that describes you, that means you have blocks in your sexual energy, and going through the re-sensitizing process will help.

It might also mean that you have learned to have sex in a way that doesn’t actually work for your body. Most of us have learned to have sex in way that is masculine, instead of feminine. So, we must learn a new way to have sex that feels good to our bodies.

The body is built to enjoy sex and experience a lot of sensation during penetration. If you have a numb vagina, you might not believe that now, but it’s true.

My vagina was numb for years, but now I experience intense sensation and powerful orgasms thanks to the re-sensitizing process.

Try it—your vagina will thank you!

 

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Author: Sarah Kennedy

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Editor: Toby Israel

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